- 6 years ago
Hey bees. Am feeling very comforted after reading all of your stories, I thought I was the only one that felt like this while ‘waiting’!
Here’s my scenario:
-SO and I have been together for 6.5 years.
-When we met we decided to plan a 2-year trip around the world, but I had to finish high school and then Uni, and then save for a while for the trip.
-I wasn’t even thinking about marriage the first few years, then at about year 2-3 we had a couple of weeks of arguing and he said he was planning to propose. Took me completely off guard, as he’d always said he never wanted to get married, and neither of us were ready at that time anyway, but a few months after that I started getting myself ready and excited! Was still too young though.
-Another 2 years went by, and I was ready. I was excited, and I was waiting. We started talking about it. He didn’t sound like he wanted to for a LONG time. I got confused, how come he wanted to years ago but now he’s so far away from it? I kept living life hit every now and then would get a not confused and worried about it.
-finished Uni and started saving for the trip. We’d planned to give ourselves one year to save. I was happy. But I wanted to marry him big time by now. We are perfect together, his mum had already called me her daughter-in-law, my parents (even my dad!) were in love with h, and people started asking when we were going to get engaged/married. He was a bit more open to talking about it now, but it seemed like the idea of it completely freaked him out. Made me pretty confused and upset because I loved him so much and although was still fairly young didn’t want to go another day without committing to him. Glad we hadn’t yet though, was nowhere near as ready as I am now!
-year of saving went by, and the entire year he stuck to his guns and promised that he would do it when we were in Europe, which was going to be from start of May until end of July this year. I believed him, and although I could barely wait at least I knew it would happen by the end of July.
-currently, we’re over half way through our Europe trip. We were staying with friends in Holland the first 3 weeks and will be the last 3 weeks, and I knew he wouldn’t do it there because he’s always wanted some big romantic thing, and a romantic country would be something he’d look for.
-so we did our first 3 weeks in holland with our friends. It didn’t help that they were all excited thinking he’ll propose while we traveled the rest of Europe, I was trying not to think about it or get my hopes up! Since then we’ve been to Paris, Spain, Italy, Greek Island Crete, Germany, Norway, and now we’ve got another 2 weeks in a beautiful Greek Island called Kos before heading back to our Holland friends.
-a couple of times in the last couple of weeks I’ve become upset, it didn’t seem like he is going to do it in Europe like he’d always said. we’d been to all these great places and I’d become excited every time, and then was left feeling disappointed every time we left somewhere that would be perfect for a proposal. I was constantly seeing potential proposal scenarios run through my head in every romantic city. But no, it never happened.
-one thing of note that did happen though, is his attitude towards us. He’s a commitment-phone who never talked about our future much, well not willingly or openly at least. But since we started traveling, he’s constantly showing me designs that he’s drawn up of our future house, and researching types of dogs that we could get, and looking up blocks of land in the area we want to live, and discussing happily honeymoons and getting engaged, and he’s been super affectionate which is not overly like him. He’s always been affectionate and gorgeous, but lately he’s been AMAZING!! Treating me like a princess.
-but when I got upset recently I told him I was worried because I know he wont propose in Holland there’s only one place left before holland, which is the place we’re in now. I asked him why he hadn’t done it in one of the gorgeous places we’d been to so far. He said he didn’t like any of the places we’ve been so far, but when we were there he was saying he liked them a lot? He kept saying this, and I was so disheartened because Europe was my last hope. I feel like he has pushed it back again, and I never thought his big Europe plan wouldn’t happen. I had my hopes up so high, and I was so excited!! Everyone was expecting it to happen in Europe too.
-BUT, the other night he said this: ‘do me this favor; don’t talk about it for the next couple of months. If we leave Kos and it hasn’t happened, don’t say anything. And if we leave Holland and it hasn’t happened yet, don’t say anything. It could happen any day, but it will happen within the next couple of months. I might have been planning to do it this week, but it would feel weird to do it after having this talk, wouldn’t it? So don’t talk about it for a while. I want it to be a surprise for you.’
I’m so happy and excited to hear those words!!! But I’m really scared that I’ve taken it the wrong way and am getting my hopes up. I’m not going to say a word. I want it to be a surprise too! I’m going to be happy, and try to focus on doing some of my own hobbies to pass time. It’s so hard to wait though!
I’d really love your advice. Do you think he means it will be soon? What do you take from it? Also how do you stop yourself from obsessing over it haha? I love him so much and I cannot wait to hear him ask me to marry him! I’m so happy and excited, I hope he really does do it soon!! 🙂
Tell me your stories too!! I’d love to hear from engaged people too!