- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I grew up in another country with very limited contact with my mother’s side of the family. In fact, I only met them one time as a 10 year old. I never heard from them on birthdays or Christmas or anything else, and I barely know their names. I moved to a large city in the US, where one of my cousins happens to live about 1 hour away from me. I have seen her 2 times in 2 years.
I ordered what seemed like a lot of invitations but my guest list keeps growing (I am having an overseas wedding where I grew up – but most of my freinds are scattered around the world – and I am using the invitation more like a wedding announcment). I emailed this cousin and asked her for her address, her mother’s address (her mother does not use a computer or email or even a mobile phone) and for my grandfather’s address (who lives on the same property, but down the road). I do not have any other way to contact these people other than through her (and even my mom said it was best to get the information this way.)
She replied promplty (which I appriciated) but also included the information of her brother, whom I have never met (who, coincitentally is only my cousin through marriage, meaning he is my step-cousin and my cousin’s half-brother, although this does not change anything it perhaps explains why I have never met this person). I understand that she thought that I might have overlooked him but since I have never met him and I am short on invitations, am I now obligated to send him an invitation? If I don’t, should I say something to her? Or is that tacky?
For clarification: He lives in the US, the wedding is overseas in my home country, a $1500 flight + accomodation away. Last time I spoke to my cousin she mentioned that he struggles to pay his bills/child support. So it is not an issue of him actually attending. It is an issue of whether or not I waste an invitation on someone I do not know.