(Closed) Newbee with disapproving FFIL issue (long!!)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

All I can say is there is one in everyone’s family. My sister wont be coming to my wedding – she is older and is going on a holiday when i get married – she doesn’t want to come so she booked a trip ……. it is her issue and i have to accept this as my reality and realise that she doesn’t want to be at my wedding so why would I want someone there to drag the day down.

Unfortunately not everyone in the world is going to like me – I haven’t done anything wrong – it is her problem and her loss. I think it is sad that she avoids huge family events coz they only happen once and she misses out on so much in my families lives. She is so competitive and jealous and she puts me down. So i guess i kinda know the feeling to a certain degree.


Sorry hun, I went off track a little (a lot!) maybe try and connect with your Future Father-In-Law by looking at what his hobbies are and try and plan an outting directed at his interests and try to bond that way???? I knowthe pain!

Post # 4
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like that has less to do with you than that that is the kind of guy he is. I doubt his behavior is new to you. Maybe you should nicely ask him about his issues with you since he seems to have some and that you would like to try to clear them up. I would make the first move but only once. He may have an issue with the age difference so ask him if he would feel the same if the ages were reversed. Honestly he sounds like a lost cause so I would take my cues from fi as he knows him best. Good luck, he sounds like a heck of a guy 🙂

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