Post # 1
I used to be a bee with a high post count but after the marriage went to heck pretty quick, I stopped posting. I’m divorced now and currently dating a great guy who treats me how I should have been treated all along.
I just had a question for the encore brides, I had my big fancy pants wedding and the new guy I’m dating (we have talked about a future between us, did I mention I’m EXTREMELY HAPPY? ) hasn’t been married. I don’t ever want to do the big wedding again, I’m honestly embarassed still that my first marriage didn’t last long. Have any of you been in this position? Are you having a big wedding even though you don’t want it? Did you compromise? I know I’m still a long way off from marriage again but just wondering thanks!
Post # 3
I’m not in that situation, but I think you should do what feels right for you and your fiance at the time.
Honestly, most guys I know were pretty excited about our wedding (even for a first wedding) because we went to Vegas for Destination Wedding, did it really traditional in that we found a nice chapel and people wore suits….but we also had a tons of fun weekend with close friends. I just never wanted a big affair with the giant reception, etc. You will know whatyou want when the time comes. <3
Post # 4
Thanks @omgsprinkles I wouldn’t mind a small affair but nothing like my first wedding, it was a stress filled 3 ring circus and became more about the wedding than the marriage.
I guess only time will tell! At this point I’m just so happy that I wouldn’t even care if I never got married again as long as our relationship stays as wonderful as it is now!
Post # 5
@Bazinga: I had over 225 people at my first wedding (it sounded about like how yours went- downhill fast), and this time we are going to have about 80. Just close family and friends, people who are happy for us and won’t be all judgy that it’s an “encore” wedding. It’s still going to be beautiful and special, but not the circus it was last time!
Post # 6
I’m an Encore, encore bride!!! and actually posted about this kind of subject a couple of weeks ago here is the thread:
I hated my BIG first wedding and this time arround we are having a very small Destination Wedding wedding, but no matter what you choose for us we have still found that ‘some’ not all will still judge you for whatever type of wedding you have! as the old saying goes “You can’t please everyone all of the time’!
Have the wedding YOU both will be happy with 🙂