- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
So, for starters I am new here! I decided to join this board after I found it and had some bad experiences with The Knot.
Just wanted to vent about something because, I literally broke down and cried this morning after reading some of these womens responses. I made a post in regards of the best way to save for honeymoon. The responses I got were IMO heartwrenching heres a few to give you an idea:
“a honeymoon–hell, a wedding, is the least of your problems right now.”
quit making excuses and, as tim gunn says, make it work.
fix the communication thing, becuase it has nothing to do with being him Russian, and everything to do with whatever you’re currently doing isn’t working.
THEN if you still want to get married, “luxury” shoe gal, plan the wedding you can afford. it is possible to stay within your budget, plenty of people in your area have the same or even smaller budgets. get the pretty princess day out of your mind, this is real life, not Barbie’s dreamhouse. work with the budget you have and fit the honeymoon into it, or change your honeymoon plans. it’s not rocket science.”
“I still cannot fathom NOT being able to scale back a $30k wedding. Just insane. That’s a downpayment on a house, or an entire car. A BMW even. WTF.”
Selling a house to finance a HM? Yikes.
Just be sure that you’re making logical long term financial decisions.
At the end of the day, your wedding is one day. Your honeymoon is just a vacation together. Think what’s best for a life together than just how to plan something that you can live with after.
And I responded to the above question because my Fiance and I arent financing our house to pay for the honeymoon. We’ve had our house in WY on the market for two years and its just now closing so we are buying a condo in San Diego with that money. We currently pay 1700 a month in rent we have a condo and will be putting that money toward the honeymoon once we get into our new place and someone had the nerve at the closing of the forum to say that was a lot of money for rent in SD.
I’m just at a loss with the knot, does the knot have a reputation of being cruel? I just dont understand why people are so mean when I was just trying to get some honest advice. Should I just leave the knot all together? Thanks for the help ladies hopefully this board will be more comforting.