Post # 1
So my hubby and I aren’t really wedding people and just ran to the courthouse and got it done. I really don’t see us having a big traditional wedding to celebrate, we might do some little fancy beach party or something later on, but that’s beside the point.
My problem is that I cannot decide on a ring, I am finding that I’m extremely picky. My husband and I just had a spontaneous mutual decision conversation about us getting married so it wasn’t a formal proposal with a ring and so I actually mentioned that I’d really appreciate if he just gave me a budget and let me pick out a ring myself and he was fine with it.
I thought I was set on a nontraditional semi precious engagement style ring (like an aquamarine or a yellow topaz stone surrounded with little diamonds) but I can’t find ANY that I like. And then I started to see how expensive diamonds are and I think it’s ridiculous and I’m too practical and not interested in fancy jewelry enough to care about a real diamond so I’m actually considering getting a fakey for now. I found a website called Carat, has anyone heard about it or know someone who got a ring from there? They have some really pretty rings and they swear that even jewelers can’t tell they are fake with the naked eye.
Right now my husband is restoring/rebuilding a Lexus GS 300 and putting a turbo Toyota Supra engine in it and he’s dropping a lot of money on this car and we’re both huge fast car buffs, so to me, THIS is my “ring” and I can’t wait to dump my VW and have a nice sporty luxury car that he worked his butt off to give to me… just to sort of explain where I’m coming from and the kind of couple we are.
So to wrap it up, do you guys think it’s cheesey to get a fake and lie and say it’s real? Or should I just continue to find a semi precious stone ring with an engagement-like setting? If so, any recommendations? I’ve looked at hundreds of rings online and I’m just about over it:(
Any advice is appreciated.
Post # 3
I personally would never lie about a fake being real. Maybe you shouldn’t get a ring? It sounds like it doesn’t really matter to you much, and you don’t have to have a ring. Who cares what people think?
Post # 4
Welcome and congratulations! Have you thought about just getting a band?
Post # 5
It’s weird, I’m torn. A big part of me really doesn’t care, but then a part of me does a little (I’m human). I don’t care about what my friends or family think because they know me and my husband and how in love we are, and I’m honest with them about looking at fakes. I just meant like strangers or aquaintences whom we’re not really close with. But then again, it’s not like people are going to look at my ring and say, “oh that’s nice, is it real?” LOL that would be tacky.
That’s actually good advice though, maybe I should just get a really nice wedding band and call it a day.
Post # 6
well I did end up getting this ring as a present from my parents years ago and though I’m not sure exactly what type of stones are surrounding the aquamarine its really nice and affordable if you wanted to go that route:
Post # 7
As many many ladies have on the boards, have you considerd moissanite? What are some of the styles you have been looking at? Maybe some of the ladies around here ccould help you find something similar to what you are looking for.
Post # 8
Yea that’s sort of what I mean but I don’t like oval at all. Just round (like a really big one) or cushion or princess. But yea, aside from the cut of the aquamarine, that’s close to what I would want.
What about buying a loose gemstone and buying a setting and designing my own? Is that expensive? Could I do that for under $1,000.00? That’s really all I’m comfortable with him spending.
I also really like crystal quartz and think it blings wonderfully. But even a cool engagement style crystal ring that I like is hard to find.
Post # 9
No I don’t know what moissanite is, googling it though.
I really like this
Post # 10
I’ll second moissanite. It’s what I have, and here’s why I chose it:
1. Affordable. You can get a .5 carat for around $400, and a full carat for around $600.
2. Clear in color so it goes with everything – that was the one reason I didn’t want a colored gemstone.
3. Very durable.
4. Pretty ethical, since it is man-made.
5. So sparkly and pretty!
For the record, since it comes up a lot, I don’t think moissanite looks exactly like diamond. I think it looks sparklier and has more facets. But, I didn’t care about making it look like a diamond and I like the way moissanite looks more. However, to the casual observer, they would probably assume it is a diamond so there’s a certain level of convenience and practicality to that.
Many people here have used moissaniteco.com and I’ve heard nothing but good things about them. I strongly recommend that you go with moissanite! : )
Post # 11
I’d go with a delicate diamond eternity band. You can definitely find a gorgeous one under $1,000 no fibbing involved.
Post # 12
I think right now I should just stop focusing on an engagement style ring and just get a really cool band.
I just came across this and think it’s beautiful and my style. I like really thick bands or rings that have 2-3 bands that are molded together under the finger and come apart at the setting (don’t know the term for that style).
Post # 13
Thanks! I’m looking at moissanite right now and yea, they look really pretty and I would totally consider that too. Gonna start looking for some online and see if I find anything. Otherwise I’ll just get a band for now.
These boards are awesome I’m glad I found you guys, it’s nice to get other’s opinions. Getting just a band was a great one, so is the moissanite. I was completely lost. I appreciate all of the input:)
I DO like jewelry and have a few nice pieces (Michelle watch) and so I’m not a total retard about jewelry with no fashion sense, but I am kinda picky and my jewelry doesn’t always have to be necessarily real or the highest price. I like jade and turquois a lot but that would be kinda silly to get as a wedding related ring lol
Post # 14
@nontraditionalmiami: “… I’m not a total retard about jewelry”
I am sure you were not trying to be rude, but as a parent of a special needs child, I take offense to your statement. People have got to stop using that word because it is derogatory and painful. Life with mental and/or physical disabilities is difficult and sometimes painful enough without others putting offensive labels on them. Please don’t say that.
Post # 15
I just wanted to recommend a website in case you do decide to get a cz for now. I have a 1.5 carat from e14k.com and it looks so real. I also have a real diamond about the same size and only have it b/c it was a diamond from a friend of my mother’s who passed away. I actually have been wearing the cz more since I’m rough on my jewelry. I’ve posted this before but have gotten tons of compliments on my cz.
One co-worker of my mom’s insisted that it was real, despite the fact that I insisted it was a cz. Another guy who worked at a car dealer and who used to work with diamonds for 20 years told me how real it looked and he never would have known had I not told him it was a cz. And just two days ago, my jeweler’s assistant (who works with the best jeweler I’ve met, and is a diamond expert) asked me what kind of cz it was b/c it looks so real that no one would ever know (if I continued to keep it clean). He knew it was a cz b/c I told him. My jeweler (the diamond expert who also trains other jewelers in NY at high end jewelery stores – and he’s in Northern VA) told me that no one can tell it’s a cz if you keep it clean.
So…if you want something affordable and don’t want to spend the money, the e14k.com site is fantastic. They also have wedding bands that match. It’s not super cheap b/c it’s a 14k gold and gold prices are higher now but it’s worth it, and will last better than sterling silver.
I have a 14k white gold ring with a cz stone. And really, you don’t have to tell anyone it’s not a real diamond. There is a lot of controversy on these boards about being forthcoming with not having a diamond but it’s complete BS. In the real world, no one cares. I’ve found it’s just few of the young and newly engaged girls who really seem to be offended if someone has a gorgeous stone (cz, moissanite, etc.) that is the same color as a diamond but isn’t and doesn’t share this information immediately, that are offended. Completely ridiculous. So…I would do what you want…if you want the cz, get it and who cares if you don’t say it’s not a real diamond when you are complimented on your ring! 🙂
Best of luck to you and congrats!
Post # 16
@Koala Bear: My engagement ring’s center stone is an aqua but it’s not as affordable as you might think. We got it set in a bridal setting and it was actually just as expensive as a diamond.