(Closed) Newbie here! He's thinking about asking the question…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Welcome to the hive! Great to have another UK bee onboard ๐Ÿ™‚

you have to check out the ‘Waiting’ board, it kept me sane for months while my then Boyfriend or Best Friend was waiting for the perfect moment to propose!

I dont think its weird having your finger measured, and if you’ve got a group of girls with you just turn it into a general ‘bling-up’ session, the jewellery shop will more than likely be fine with you trying on stuff even if you have no intention of buying there and then.

Mis-matched erings and wedding bands seem popular right now so I wouldn’t worry about that, and the fact its your mums ring is so sweet!

Wow love the ruby!!! Honestly just try as much as you can on, different styles, sizes, colours. Things on paper or in a stock photo can look a LOT different than in person and in particular on your own hand. You have to look at it every day so you should love it!

Just from my experience, the mark up in jewellery shops is ridiculous. If you find a ring you love you might want to look for it online or even source the stone yourself and have the ring designed and made custom. That’s the route my Fiance took and it cost him about 1/3 of what the retail appraisal came back at…

Post # 4
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Hi Splodge

Congratulations on your impending engagement!

I felt really shy about working out my ring size too so I ordered free plastic ring sizers on the Internet. Lots of jewellers do them and I didn’t have to pay. Plenty should pop up if you type it into Google.

I also went into a high street jewellers to get measured. I was quite shy about it but the sales assistant was really nice and confirmed that I was the same size as I’d measured with the plastic sizer.

If your mum’s ring fits – and it looks like it does – it should be fairly easy to print out a sizer off the Internet and put the ring over it to figure out the correct size.

In our hunt for an engagement ring I’ve learnt you’ll get a lot more from your money online (Blue Nile, 77 Diamonds, etc), if you go antique or if you head to Hatton Gardens or the Jewellery Quarter in Birmingham. You will have a lot more choice. Most diamonds in Fraser Hart, Goldsmiths, Ernest Jones, etc are probably G-J in colour, SI1-I1 clarity, and without certificates.

Post # 6
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

I love your mom’s ring just as it is.  Of course you will want to get the split repaired but other than that, I think it is beautiful.  Good Luck on your search and post pictures when you find something.  

Post # 7
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Love your moms ring! You might want to ask the jeweler when youre there about making it white gold – and just double check that you could do that without compromising any pieces of the ring! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Splodge2003:  I’m not a fan of mixing metals (even if they are both gold); I like things to match so I think a yellow gold halo ring would be a great choice.

I wear a K but I think there’s some give and take. It depends on how warm your hands are, for instance. If you think an I would be too tight when your hands are warm, try a J on. Whatever you choose, remember cut is king and the most important of the four Cs. If you’re going for a round brilliant, I’d get either a GIA ex ex ex or an AGS 000. I don’t think I’d bother with any of the other gem grading labs.

I’m not sure what your budget is but 77diamonds.com have some nice yellow gold halo settings. You could get something really special and sizeable for under £2,000. There’s the Contessa, Medici, and Bourbon. They halo makes the rings look so big! Blue Nile doesn’t sell any yellow gold halos.

If you’re comfortable ordering from the USA, definitely look at:
James Allen
Brian Gavin Diamonds
Good Old Gold

Make sure you factor in shipping/VAT/duty if you order from one of those. You’ve got to add the 20% VAT and then allow some extra – think it’s around 3%. James Allen has a tax and shipping calculator at the bottom of every page, which is really useful.

There are some lovely yellow gold halo rings on James Allen but be warned – some of them are quite expensive. You will definitely be able to find something nice there though! If you want diamond shoulders and a halo, I like this ($1025). Again, you could get something really special for under £2,000 – e.g. that setting plus a 0.53 carat J VVS2 AGS000 (True Hearts – so really lovely hearts and arrows) for £1,943.96 all in (according to the calculator). Since you’re going with yellow gold I would definitely maximise your carat size by considering warmer coloured diamonds (I and J, maybe even K).

Post # 10
2743 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

@Splodge2003:  Moissanite is made in a lab the ones from space are not nearly that large. A lab created ruby may fit your bill since you are open to lab stones. Rubies in yellow gold are beautiful. They are also one of the rarest gems hence the prices you are seeing. Rubies and sapphires are the same thing one is red the other is all the other colors available. High quality sapphires and rubies that are not treated command very high prices. You can get deals if you know what you’re looking at and buy directly from a cutter who goes directly to the mine to source. You’ll need to know a lot about what you’re looking at to do this though and spend a lot of time to find the right stone. If you like red there are other stones that work well for red such as spinel which is an 8.5 in hardness. Spinel is known as the great pretender some of the most famous gems of the past that were quoted to be rubies were actually spinels.




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