- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi everyone, I’ve checked out this board for the past month or so, so I thought I would sign up and at least introduce myself instead of just lurking…
Not sure if I’m “officially” waiting yet…here’s my story:
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been dating for 11 months. We’re very close with each other’s families, including extended (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc). We have talked future together, ie. where we would potentially like to live, buying a house (not in concrete terms yet though…just in general), etc. Boyfriend or Best Friend has mentioned “our” future kids in conversation before (as in how he would handle a situation if it were our kids).
My Boyfriend or Best Friend comes from a family in which they do not outwardly express emotions, do not say I love you to each other, etc. I come from a very emotional family. I said I love you first in October and he wasn’t quite ready to say it (although we had a very deep talk about why he has such a hard time verbally expressing it) and he finally said it to me (with no prodding or anything from me) about 2 weeks ago. Now he’s saying it more and more. He kind of expressed that he equates I love you more with commitment, whereas I express it when I feel it, not equating it to anything.
In October we went to my cousin’s wedding, and he randomly was mentioning things he would like at his wedding. He also told my parents, “if <my name> and I get married, I would like….” and was talking about things. My mom of course got too excited so he followed it with “hypothetically!” haha.
He calls my parents Mom and Dad, and we went on a wine tour yesterday and he mentioned the one place looked like a nice place to have a wedding. Another couple just got engaged on Christmas, and her ring was HUGE. Later, he told me (again in front of my parents) that “If and when we get engaged, don’t expect a ring like THAT one!” My mom said “what is it? if or when?” and he said “when”.
So bees, I guess I was wondering when you all considered yourself “waiting”. Was it after ring shopping, or a talk about actually getting engaged? or was it like my situation, Boyfriend or Best Friend is bringing up marriage and wedding stuff without any input or influence from me? (honestly! I don’t bring it up at all)