Post # 1
I know there have been a zillion posts asking what you need to register for, and those were helpful when I was creating our registry. However, now we’re 10 weeks away from our due date, and most of the practical stuff still remains on our registry (although I can’t fault people for buying the cute stuff first, lol). I’m sure the fact that I’m even asking this question is a sign of nesting instincts like whoa, but I’m starting to get a little nervous about being so ill-prepared for actually having a newborn in the house (cue the hormonal “jfc what if he comes early” worries). I want to leave some stuff on our registry for a while longer for those procrastinators but I need to balance that with feeling ready for the baby, and as great as all the cute onesies/teething toys/board books we received at our shower are, they’re not helping with the readiness.
Bearing in mind that a lot of what we register for is not immediately useful (baby gates, bumbo chairs, etc), are any mamas willing to share a rough list of the absolute must-haves for those early weeks with the baby? What does that newborn survival kit look like for you?
Post # 2
I just had my second LO who is 11 days old, so I’m in the thick of it now. I would say there are very few must haves. You will need some sleepers or onesies, some diapers and wipes, maybe some spit up cloths (we use cloth diapers for this), maybe some swaddle blankets or the velcro swaddles (but this depends on baby, some babies hate them) and a sleeping surface of some kind. But you don’t really NEED 4-5 sleeping surfaces…a lot of people go overboard in this area and buy bouncers, swings, rock n plays, cribs, bassinets, pack in plays–all of it.
My newborn is napping on my couch on a blanket while I surf the net. We have a rock n play and we have a bassinet on our stroller that we can detach and use in our bedroom–and that’s all. Same for my first LO and it was all we needed.
For your own recovery, you’ll need pads and maybe an extra can of dermoplast. If you are planning to BF, you may need stuff for cracked nipples, but you can always buy that as the need arises.
As baby gets a bit older, I found a crib and crib mobile useful, white noise machine, and tummy time mat/activity gym…..but the crib wasn’t useful for us till after 6 months. And newborns mostly sleep and want to eat and be held all day, so the rest of the stuff isn’t useful till after the first month or two. They can’t even really see at first (just blurriness), so toys and mobiles aren’t really useful till their eyesight improves.
Post # 3
Crib+sheet, car seat, diapers, wipes, nail file, swaddle sack (like miracle blanket was my favorite), swaddle blankets, lanolin, stool softener (ha), onesies or footed sleepers depending on season, white noise machine (or loud fan), burp rags or flour sack towels, maybe pacifiers, nosefrida or similar. I also loved my stroller so we could take walks almost immediately. That is about it. You spend a lot of time holding them!
I would say that’s all that’s necessary. I would probably have a few bottles on hand and a pump ready to go. Options you might use would also be baby carrier, bouncer, rock and play, or swing. But those aren’t really necessary but can be very handy. And you don’t need all of them.
What you don’t need immediately are toys, bumbo seats ,baby gates, play mat, etc.
Post # 4
This is great, thank you ladies! Really helping me feel like it won’t be such a monstrous task to get ourselves stocked up for this kiddo.
Post # 5
Somewhere for baby to sleep (crib, bassinet etc), somewhere for baby to chill (we have a very basic bouncer and a small mat for the floor), a car seat, something to carry baby (stretchy wrap, carrier, pram etc), diapers and wipes, clothes (six onesies, six sleepers, a few warm layers, socks or booties, a couple of hats), burp cloths (I used cut up old sheets), something to wrap baby (either a flat muslin or zip up / Velcro swaddle) and a great diaper bag!
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant
A baby swing. It will save your life. Get one that goes up to 30lbs and cradles the baby (some are literally designed like swings in a play ground and you wont be able to use it right away.)
Post # 7
I don’t think anyone’s mentioned nursing bras and bra pads. (Or bottles and formula if bottle feeding).
Essentials which I think have been mentioned: Cot or crib, blankets, car carrier, a few outfits (including a beanie if it’s cold), maxi pads, pacifier, burp cloths (small towels are ok for this), and some form of change station (wipes, tissues, lotion, diapers).
Technically not indisposable from day one, but super handy: a good chair for feeding and a special shaped pillow so you can rest your arms while you hold baby. A bouncer. A pram.
Just about every corner store has diapers so it’s no big deal if you don’t have them stockpiled.
Post # 8
Amazon Prime. Seriously. In the early days when LO was on the verge of colic, it was so helpful to be able to get stuff brought to the doorstep, for free, within about 48 hours. Baby only sleeps while being vigorously rocked back and forth? Fastest baby swing on the market arrives two days later. Mom can’t figure out how to wrap a swaddle in the middle of the night? Boom, Halo swaddle sacks! Clipped the baby’s finger again with those impossible tiny clippers on Monday? Manicure scissors save the day on Wednesday!
Post # 9
Sleepers (you go through a ton), swaddle blankets and a swing!
Post # 10
I agree with everything above, but also 1) somewhere to bathe the baby – either a tub that goes in your big tub or something that will fit in your sink – and baby soap; and 2) I highly recommend some type of diaper pail. You don’t really want them in your regular garbage, you’ll want something that keeps out the stink.
Nice to have: gowns. They make changing the baby way easier when you have to do it 15 times a day for the first month. We had these for our daughter and I wish we had more!
Also, about Amazon Prime/Amazon Mom, you get 20% discount on diapers if you sign up for the subscription. You can cancel after one shipment and change sizes, so you’re not stuck with boxes you don’t need! Absolutely wonderful!
Post # 11
I’ll add post-partum bath herbs and a Netflix subscription. 😉 Seriously, though, I spent a lot of time with my feet up, breastfeeding my little guy and watching Grey’s Anatomy. It was so nice! I think all the other things I’d add like maxi pads, diapers, wipes, swing, co-sleeper, swaddles with velcro, burp rags, etc have been mentioned already. Good luck!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
In my list of must haves (given it will be cold), I have blankets, wasclothes, t-shirts, pants, sleepers, onesies, socks, cloth diapers, thermometer, waterproof pad, crib, bouncy seat, car seat, grooming kit, bath tub and some sort of healthcare kit. This is mostly what I think I will need at least for the first month, and I am planning to breastfeed. I figure we won’t need many clothes for the first month or so as it will be cold and not planning to take baby out before then. I added most of these items to my registry. I will buy some things myself, but I am waiting until I have my baby shower to see what I need.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
Oh yeah for me, I will buy nursing bras, nursing pads, nipple lotion. I am also getting a nursing pump from my insurance for when I start to work, milk storage containers, some bottles, and all the stuff you need to maintain them. I won’t be introducing bottles until at least a month to 6 weeks. These items I am not putting in my registry because I rather buy them myself or won’t need it right away.
Post # 14
Soothing gel pads for your painfully engorged chest, an ice pack for down there, a plastic syringe to collect and feed colostrum if baby is having trouble.
Refrain from buying too much, you’ll be surprised how little baby needs at first.
Post # 15
My first arrived a month early–the crib wasn’t even assembled, my bag wasn’t packed, and I’d just purchased a new camera but hadn’t yet taken it out of the box.
PPs have great suggestions. For the first week or so I second car seat, nursing pads, other pads, cheap, comfortable underwear you don’t mind throwing away, diapers, washcloths or wipes, those newborn gowns are great!!, lots of onesies, blankets, breast pump and storage containers (I found it easiest to start a stockpile when my milk is just coming in). Their needs grow as they do.
I had a LOT of stuff. While some of it certainly made parenting easier, when you think about it people all over the world have babies and manage without bumbos, etc. I rarely used my changing table, two of my three hated the swing (but loved the little vibrating sling seat), and was gifted so many clothes I ended up giving away things with the tags still on.
Amazon Prime!! I love Amazon Prime.