Post # 1
Ive been bookmarking pages from Wedding bee and thought it was high time I joined in!! 🙂
Im new here, and eventhough i am not “officially” engaged, me and my partner have started to plan towards a wedding.(I think he is waiting till we see each other in person to make it all official…. fingers crossed!!!)
How do you plan a wedding long distance??? He’s in the US, I’m in Aus, and the wedding has to be in Sri Lanka!!! there is a fair while to go… but it is driving me bonkers already!! I feel like I should plan starting now so that I wont go crazy… but I am going crazy nevertheless!!!
Post # 3
Congratulations, I hope he makes it official soon!
That said, I wouldn’t make any solid plans until he has officially popped the question. Once he does, the main thing I think you should think about is looking up the wedding regulations /laws in Sri Lanka, so that you can get an idea of what getting married there entails. Different countries have different legal routes and it is important that you don’t rush into planning and then find out later you can’t get married there without a certain piece of paper. Secondly start thinking of dates, especially looking at what the weather is like in Sri Lanka as this could really influence your choice and use trusty google to scope out some potential wedding venues so you can get an idea of what sort of place you want to get married in. I know there are some companies that organise weddings abroad for those who are nervous doing it themselves (here in the UK several high street travel agencies offer wedding holiday packages) so maybe if you are at a loss of where to start, discussing your options with one of these companies can give you some ideas.
Post # 4
I agree with @Sibiohan: Even if you are 99% sure he will propose the next time you see each other, on the off chance he doesn’t, you’ll be disappointed. And if you already started making plans without him, it may put some unwanted pressure on the situation. I was waiting for a long time, and our engagement happened pretty haphazardly. I think if you need to keep your hands busy with something for your wedding, the best place to start would be to find out the legal requirements for marrying in Sri Lanka. Good luck!
Post # 5
I opened this thread thinking I could offer advice since we live in Maryland and our wedding is in Massachusetts. But no, I got nothing for such a long distance! I think maybe your best bet is to check out the advice from brides about planning destination weddings, since that’s kind of what you have going on here. Some bees plan with far away FIs, especially military brides, so you might check those boards too if you would like advice about how to plan when you two are far apart. I second PP in making sure to check on what kind of documentation you’ll need in Sri Lanka. Just out of curiosity, why Sri Lanka?
Post # 6
THANK YOU EVERYONE! 😀
Good news… HE POPPED THE QUESTION!!! 😀 and it was so much more better than I thought too!! Very happy! and VERY excited! I can FINALLY see an end to the Long distance relationship!! eventhough i am sad he is gone back to the US now! 🙁
Although Im already starting to have problems with the planning!! *sigh* But we have decided it will be In december next year! Long wait… but I’ll make it!! plus its a good idea to look into the laws etc. Im not a citizen there, but my partner is… so have to figure all of it out!
Thank you for making me feel welcome here!!
@Beckster329 – Sri Lanka because my background is Sri Lankan and I was born there, and my partner is sri Lankan too. My parents want their families to be able to attend the ceremony. In all honesty im ok with it because it will be a little cheaper PLUS i LOOOOVE sri Lankan food! 🙂
Post # 7
I am planning a French wedding from the US and the biggest advice I can give you is to have somebody you can rely on who is already in Sri Lanka and can talk in person to the vendors and give you feed back. It can be a family member, a friend, a wedding planner… Somebody who is organized and whom you trust with making decisions fast. In my case, it was my mom and she was a life saver. I picked the vendors on internet and interviewed them by email, Skype or phone calls then leaved it up to my mom to make the final choice if needed (for example, I gave her 2 caterers I really liked and she is the one who went to the tasting, negociated with them and made the final decision).
I don’t know if you go to Sri Lanka regularly but I would recommand that either of you make the trip at least once (preferably about 6 months before the date) and have a wedding marathon meeting vendors, checking logistics, etc.
It is a pain and pretty stressful at time, but if you can delegate to an extend, you can do it. Lots of people told me I was crazy to plan a wedding from a distance but it is possible.