Post # 1
I would like to start by saying my fiancee is the most wonderful man I have ever met and when we met back in June 2012 I would under no illusion that he would become my boyfriend.
so we started our fairy tale relationship which hs resulted in me being happier than ever before and so content. This has also not always been plain sailing. He is an army officer and got deployed four months into our relationship. We stayed strong, managing to speak most days and exchange letters and parcels. I think this made us stronger and was the reason he decided he wanted to marry me after six months.
he proposed to me officially at the end of February and I was delighted. The whole thing was amazing. We havdecided to have a long engagement it ill 2016 as We have a only been together 10 months.
my family are delighted and so are his. They knew from seeing us both from the beginning that this was most likely going to end in engagement/marriage. Some of my ‘friends’ however, have been i down right rude. Whilst I was at uni I was always the single girl in amongst a group of glamour trains who were always dating and I was always quite happy waiting on the one. It has come as a surprise them and many have said how they think it is too soon. i am a very reflective and sometimes insecure person and I need feedback when I make a decision.
However, no matter how I look at this situation I cannot find how people can make negative comments but its making me insecure. What do you guys think?
Hope you can help
Post # 3
@Montazzle: I would ignore the rude comments and attitudes from your friends. It sounds to me like you have a good man in your life and a good head on your shoulders. And maybe these comments are being made because they are jealous of your happiness? And it’s a great thing that you are having a long engagment. Honestly, the girls aren’t in a position to criticize or make snarky comments about your “quick” engagement, being engaged is one thing being married is another. Do they know about the long engagement? If they are really your friends, they could be concerned with the quickness of the relationship and the engagement but if you tell them about your long engagement that may stop the negative/rude comments from them. 🙂 Congratulations on your engagement btw! =)
Post # 4
Welcome to the bee!!! Sweety if you know he’s the one then he is and thats it! Everyone else can shut their mouths because even if they are your friends, the fact that you are happy should be the most important thing, and if they are worried then they can express their worry without being rude! Cngratulations on your engagement!!!!!!!
Post # 5
@Montazzle: ignore the comments! Not everyone will be happy there is always a few I out the bunch even some you don’t expect. As long as you are happy it doesnt matter. me and my Fiance have ppl telling us we aren’t ready wait longer and we have been together 5 years at the end of the day it’s your life you are living for so be happy and brush their comments off 🙂
Post # 6
Agreed with above! They’re obviously just jealous. I think if your family is happy for you, that’s a damned good sign that he’s the one and that you’re ready. They probably know you way better than your friends.
Congrads on your engagement 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think people are just (somewhat legitimately) worried that you’re rushing into things and are trying to look out for you – and obviously doing a poor job of communicating that.
It’s really smart of you guys to have a long engagement! There is something to be said for seeing how things are after the “honeymoon period” of 1.5-2 years. With any luck, your relationship will just get stronger and stronger! Congrats on your engagement 🙂
Post # 8
I would take what they say with a grain of salt! Good friends tell you what they really think, so I think they’re good friends for saying “Listen, Krissy, we love you, but do you think you might be moving too fast?”
Once you’ve set them straight, though, that you ARE sure, they should stop. And if they don’t, I would suggest finding friends that are more supportive of your decision!