(Closed) Newly engaged and curious

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a long engagement, 3 years.  We wanted to wait until after we graduated college to get married.  I didn’t start really planning until we were about a year out from the wedding.

Post # 4
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I didn’t start planning ’til maybe 6 months after the engagement? although I did go dress shopping about 3 months after the engagement, hehe. (we got engaged in Feb and there are a lot of sample sales that start up it the spring, and I didn’t want to miss out on those.)

The first thing I would do it make your guest list! then do your venue shopping. But if you’re not ready to get “serious” with planning yet, browsing bridal magazines and reading blogs is a good way just to get inspiration without doing anything – just make sure to mark down what you like! I feel like I saw a bunch of ideas, but then forgot about them ’cause I didn’t make note of it…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I started by looking at bridal mags…..I am not a good example as I have a freakishly long engagement, but magazines and website are a good place to start. Consider having a scrapbook of ideas or a file on your desktop where you save pics you like. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine will be just under a year and a half. We had to have a summer wedding because of school but we would’ve done a year otherwise.

I started looking around right away- it was nice to take our time and not feel to rushed. We estimated the number of guests and booked ceremony and reception sites almost immediately. We booked the photographer shortly after since she’s amazing and books quickly. Since then we’ve booked other things but it’s been pretty relaxed and easy, I’m glad I’m not rushing with anything- yet, haha. Oh, and I started dress shopping right away too, but I still haven’t picked one, lol. I just liked having an excuse to put on lots of pretty dresses.

I actually started on The Knot, it gives a good checklist of things you need to do (not all necessary though), a budget planner, a guest list, and other fun tools. I don’t visit the boards there though, these boards are so much nicer and very supportive πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We actually started planning about a month and a half before we got officially engaged. we started planning shortly after he ordered the ring, but we didn’t announce it until after he had officially proposed and i had the ring to show people. as it happened, we already had the venue and dress before the ring. but we had known where we wanted to have the wedding for a few months, so that wasn’t hard at all. our total time of engagement with the extra month and a half would be 9.5 months.

Post # 9
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I didn’t set a date until I was engaged for about 6 months and my wedding was 5 months away. I kept it simple πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We started planning on the car ride home from Vegas πŸ™‚ Well at least talking about dates and budget and who would get more “likes” and comments on their facebook page when their status changed (lol).  But it was our 9 year anniversary so we had been together forever and wanted to get married as soon as we could.  I went on The Knot, they had a lot of good resources for starting planning because I had no idea what I was doing, I had never looked into this stuff before.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I didn’t start planning too much until about 5 months after our engagement when we finally picked a date….but I was looking at everything just getting ideas.  We’re having a 21 month engagement, so I’ve had a while to plan/look for things.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

Pick up a magazine!  πŸ™‚  

I feel like I started wedding planning far before I got engaged.  And, even still – when it came down to actually picking things, it was difficult.  All the ideas in my head transalated into what was feasible, what I could afford, etc… plus, it’s sometimes hard to figure out what you like and if that will work, etc.

We picked a date, and then found a venue… and then our venue wasn’t available on ‘our’ date – so we picked a different one.  Venues can book up quickly, so you have time on your side!  I’d say – start going to venues … what will happen is you’ll soon start to figure out what you want and what you don’t want.  For us – it ended up being 1) no outside noise (my #1 venue pick was crossed off the list because there was a lot of traffic noise) 2) cermony/reception in same place (so no one has to drive) 3) hired help to do all setup/tear down  4) ability to bring in alcohol (this wasn’t a deal breaker, but it was on the ‘we really would prefer this) and our venue ended up being this way

….my point in saying all of this – is, with each decision you’ll need to make, you’ll start to figure out what’s best of you and Fiance…. just take one thing at a time, and before you know it, you’ll be looking BACK at wedding planning and savoring the memories of it all. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We got engaged in September of 2010 and our wedding is for October of 2012. My fiance just graduated college in May of 2011 so we wanted to have time to save up and all that. We started looking at venues in February/March of 2011 and picked our date and venue in March/April. So, about 5-6 months after we got engaged. But, I had signed up on The Knot before we got engaged and then used that to get ideas and things. A few months ago someone told me about this site and I really like the boards. Good luck with your planning! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We got engaged June 3rd this year and still haven’t booked anything. We didn’t start looking for about a month but like previous girls when we did pick a date the venue we liked was not available. We went through this like 4 times and just settled on a venue today- i’m waiting to hear back from the lady on what dates they had available. I figured it was going to be easier if I let the venue pick my date for me haha.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I bought bridal magazines right away! but it took us about 2 months to pick a date and when we finally did thats when i really jumped into planning – before then it was kind of browsing.

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