(Closed) Newly engaged and incredibly confused!

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Chesapeake Bay Beach Club

I think you can go ahead and start planning!  Most teachers I know had to wait until a school break to take their honeymoon (friends who got married in October are about to leave over winter break for theirs) but you are allowed days off every year, so I’m sure your future boss will be fine if you take two days off before your wedding!  Maybe check the academic calendar in advance and try to plan when a good time might be that won’t conflict with midterms, or the like?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I hope Powder Puff shows up!

I would think, just going off of many bosses, you’re going to have a hard time asking for a few days off not only at the beginning of the school year but also right after you’ve starting working.

 

I  know if I had the choice to hire someone with preexisting dates that they couldn’t work v. someone who would be avaliable to work all work days…well…in these times you know who I’d go for.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Welcome to weddingbee!  I would go ahead and plan it and not worry about it yet!  Pretty much any company will let you have a few days off even if you are just hired for things like that!  I just wouldn’t plan on having a honeymoon right away until you know what is going on with your job situation.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Is there any way you can schedule the wedding for next summer, perhaps early August, so it would fall before the school year? My mother has been a school teacher for almost thirty years, and not only does it seem to be hard for her to do things during school, but she doesn’t seem to have the energy or desire to. You want your wedding to be some time when you’re not distracted by your job immediately before and after, if at all possible. Hopefully you can get it worked out soon, because as most of the brides here can tell you, it pays BIG to plan early! Wait a few more months and most of the choice vendors will be booked. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The truth is that many school districts have strict unwritten rules as to when personal/sick days can be utilized, particularly by untenured teachers.  An untenured teacher who takes off too many days the school doesn’t feel are acceptable (usually Fridays/Mondays/days before major holidays/parent teacher conferences) can get in trouble.  There is the feeling amongst administrators that teachers have a lot of time off during the summer, so they need to plan personal events like weddings then.  

The start of the school year is the time when you establish the tone for behavior in your classroom for the entire year, and an administrator would be concerned if even a seasoned teacher took time off at the start of the school year.  The first year of teaching is also exhausting, and I wouldn’t recommend getting married on top of that.  If the summer break is too soon, perhaps you should think of the time near Thanksgiving, or Winter Break. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Hi there,

congratulations on your engagement! I am sure if you explain the situation, he would be perfectly fine with that!

Good luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

UM SPAMZ… lol

anyways, you could always try for fall break!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

In terms of your classroom management and teaching, it would be better for you to get married in April than September.  I can’t give an opinion as to whether or not your engagement is too long, since that is really up to you and your husband.  In NY, a lot of venues book fast, so a year and a half or two year engagements are not uncommon.  The only thing I would strongly encourage is that you do as much planning as possible this summer, since your first year of teaching is quite overwhelming, and it will be really hard to do a lot of planning during the school year.  Best of luck to you!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Welcome! I’m a school counselor and Id deff. shy away from having a wedding during the school year. Most principals will expect you to take vacation days during scheduled vacations. Depending on where you work you may have 1 personal day but thats the most I’ve ever seen. For all those reasons FH and I are getting married  in June.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I teach high school English in Ohio.  We do have several restrictions on personal days.  Not to mention, taking days off for something that can be planned (like a wedding as opposed to a funeral) is usually a frowned upon, especially in your first few months of work.  Either do it in the summer or over a holiday!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

A year and 4 months isn’t that long at all 🙂  My husband knew I wanted at least a year to plan, and I had a year and two months.  The time will FLY by and it will be here before you know it.  

You’ll enjoy having time to plan things out your way.  We got married in April too!  We weren’t teachers, we were still students.  We had our wedding the first Sunday of spring break and went on our honeymoon right afterwards.

You guys don’t have the calendar for the 2010-2011 school year yet do you?  If you planned the wedding around spring break, you’d be able to honeymoon right after the wedding if you timed it right.

Good luck!

P.S. Where are you thinking of having the wedding?  I’m in GA too 🙂

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