Post # 1
Hey all! So this first post is more of a get this off my chest post than anything else. I just got officially engaged a few weeks ago and my fiance and I are starting to plan our wedding for just a few months down the road. I’m so happy to be marrying him but I am already extremely overwhelmed and plain old lost. I’ve researched a lot and read many articles, etc. but I still don’t really know how to even begin. We’ve talked dates and budgets and thrown out a couple ideas for a venue but that’s it. When I start researching vendors and attempt to find prices my stress level skyrockets. And I feel like I can’t get anything started. I honestly don’t know how to begin even. I’ve only been to 2-3 weddings in my lifetime and I’ve never been involved in the planning of one. We can’t afford a wedding planner either as we are trying to keep costs way, way down. I’m at the very beginning of this challenging process and I already feel like crying my eyes out!
Post # 3
That’s not a good sign. Planning a wedding should be fun! Remember, you don’t have to have a traditional wedding. You can elope! Have something small at the city hall. This wedding craze is out of control, there is so much pressure. If you are crying this soon, I think you need to seriously evaluate what is important to you guys, what you can afford, and what you have time for. At the end of the day, no matter how you get married, it’s the MARRIAGE that is important. Not the one day.
Post # 4
@tah: First you should decide what type of wedding you want to have – large or small. And think of a wedding as a special event or planning a party of a sort. With huge special events the key thing is not trying to do everything all at once or you’ll get overwhelmed. Break it down into small, manageable tasks. It’s no different from accomplishing anything else in life, so take a breath. You can do this, lol.
Basic things to consider: Budget, first of all.
Then – here’s a sample to get your started: Guest list. Venue. Attire for yourself and your Fiance. Bridal party. Rings. Officiant. Music. Type of vows. Flowers. Decor. Invitations, etc.
And not all of these things are necessary or required, they are options.
What I did was get a notebook with a different section for each thing. And I’m a list-maker person and love checking things off as I accomplish them. You’ll find a system that works for you.
Also you’ll receive lots of great advice here on the Bee. And congratulations on your engagement. Welcome and hope you stick around!
Post # 5
Lots of good advice here already. I would suggest first setting a budget then invest in a wedding checklist and see what things on there are important to you. Wedding planning can be so overwhelming and stressful but it can be fun too. Maybe you could enlist some family or friends to help you do some research on vendors and get pricing since that part seems to stress you out the most? you will find loads of info on WB here to get you started.
Here is a good checklist to take a look at – you definately do not have to do everything on this list! pick and choose because sometimes the list itself can be overwhelming. There are a several things on this list that you don’t HAVE to do like sending you engagement picture to the local news paper, or doing engagement pictures at all! its totally up to you! Weddings these days are not cookie cutter and are all about the bride and groom 🙂 do what you please but at least a checklist will give you some ideas.