(Closed) Newly engaged, any ideas?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2533 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My advice is to take it easy and don’t jump into planning right away!
We didn’t do that and it made us miserable.

Plus, a March wedding is barely 5 months away – it’s doable, but if you’re not ready to go I’d suugest pushing it back a tiny bit.

Plus, your budget can expand if you wait a bit longer.

But for a small wedding, you have so many possibilities. You could rent out a b&b, a small farm, a room in a resturant (a friend did that and it was lovely), have a small wedding at an aquarium, do a picnic outside.

My vote on a tiny budget would be to go to the courthouse (try to find one that will allow you to bring guests if you want people there) and then to either rent out a small room in a resturant (fixed menu, probably already decorated) or have a picnic in a backyard or park.
Just buy a sheet cake from the grocery, or a pie, or if you want a “real” wedding cake order one but DONT mention wedding (you’ll get a better price) just ask for a nice cake for a party of 20.

You can do it in 4 months – you really can! But you’ll need a lot of friends/help on board OR to simplify things so they don’t drive you nuts.


Post # 4
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Congrats on your engagement, and welcome!  Don’t stress 🙂

A small guest list should be easy to work with!  It will really help you stay under budget too.

Are you thinking of getting married in a church, or at a park, or with a justice of the peace?  What kind of wedding are you thinking about?

As for a reception- that is how you thank your guests for coming to your ceremony.  It doesn’t have to be a 5 course plated sit down affair, but you should do a little something for your guests.  If you get married earlier in the day you can easily have a brunch, lunch, or even hors d’oeuvres or appetizers (if the ceremony and reception are not over a typical meal time).

Figure out a guest list, set up a budget, and make a list of priorities.  That will help you get started 🙂

Post # 5
3731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Destiny06:  Are you going to host a formal reception afterwards for the 20 guests or so? Will this be done in a restaurant? Do you want a photographer? Are you thinking about a traditional wedding dress? How about flowers? Where will the ceremony be?

You need to have some sense of your vision and then give us some details so we can help.

Post # 6
2533 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

And PS – I don’t like the attention either (and the backyard wedding was my DREAM wedding) but Fiance wanted a bigger party. I said OK because I knew it would make him happy – he has some strong opinions on what he wants in our wedding.

Also! Don’t be afraid to have a brunch reception!
Everyone loves breakfast, and it’s cheaper than dinner!
My mom did that when she married my father (she did a champagne brunch) and had a blast planning it. She got a piano player for background music, everyone just chatted and ate and were out by noon. All of her guests said it was the best wedding they’d ever been to.

Post # 7
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Destiny06:  With that small of a guestlist you could use a private room at a local restaurant for the reception.  But really if you just got engaged, take a few days/weeks to just enjoy being engaged before stressing out about planning the wedding.  With a small guest list, you should have no trouble planning everything out within 2-3 months.

Post # 8
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Destiny06:  Welcome to the Hive! And congrats!

I also had a small, quickly planned wedding! We set the date in December and got married in May! We had a Saturday morning wedding in a church, then had a formal (not black tie formal, but nice) banquet luncheon.

Since we had a luncheon, we only paid $17/pp for the meal, cake, hors d’evoures and unlimited Mimosas!

Then we took out a party bus that night with our 15 closest friends (and some family), and went out dancing that night (and paid for all their drinks)!

The whole shebang cost us 4K.

Post # 9
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Definitely don’t rush into it!  I went to a wedding a year ago with maybe about 50 guests.  It was at a church in the morning, then afterwards, they used a large room in the church and had takeout delivered from the couple’s favorite restaurants for a luncheon.  It was a bunch of appetizers, but since they were from real restaurant and not typical crappy wedding food, it was delicious.  I thought it was a really fun way to have an inexpensive/ informal wedding while expressing the personality of the couple.  The couple wasn’t comfortable with all the attention, and skipped things like a huge bridal party, cheesy entrances, head table, and a formal dinner.  Everyone enjoyed mingling more and eating appetizers and sipping on some beer and wine the couple bought locally. 

Post # 10
46419 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congratulations! And welcome to the Hive!

Take some time to catch your breath and enjoy being engaged.

Do some online research on sites like Pinterest, WeddingGawker, Green Wedding Shoes, Style me Pretty etc. Start a wedding board of your own on Pinterest. Pin anything you like- something that says “us”. You will quickly see a trend forming.

Don’t get overwhelmed by the thought of planning a wedding. Other than the obvious differences, just think of planning a small social occasion.

To be budget friendly, consider planning a brunch wedding, an afternoon tea, or dinner in a restaurant. Many restaurants have private rooms you could use for both the ceremony and reception if you choose. You could have the tables set up as a “U” so your guests can sit at the same place for both ceremony and reception.  Or find a nearby venue for the ceremony and have the whole wedding party walk to the reception (see Duncan’s pics)


Ask lots of questions here on the Bee. Most of us are really nice and supportive.

Post # 11
20 posts

I would pick a warm all-inclusive mexico destination where you and your guests can relax and enjoy some warmer weather. You would also have all week to just have fun together and many all-inclusives offer very reasonably priced ceremony and small receptions if you are all staying there.

Post # 12
20 posts

I would pick a warm all-inclusive mexico destination where you and your guests can relax and enjoy some warmer weather. You would also have all week to just have fun together and many all-inclusives offer very reasonably priced ceremony and small receptions if you are all staying there.

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