- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Let me set this straight,
I’m thrilled to have been proposed to, love my fiance, and can’t wait to officially acknowledge we are together in marriage/unity. However, I am not looking forward to the months ahead.
I have been engaged for two weeks… if I had a $1 for every time someone asked me when “the date” was, I’d be rich.
I feel already that given he proposed in April, knowing we’d want to get married in May.. next year is too much of a rush given I work 60-70 hours a week. That this is going to be hanging over my head like a chore for the next 2 years.
Eloping, as enticing as it is, there are a few select people I want with us, to celebrate with us. However, no way we are getting away without our families. So why not throw something lower key, semi-formal at most, an invite all our families and friends to be one place at once..
except there’s practicalities. Dates. Guest lists. Locations… I’m not even got my feet wet and I’m like ugh. Yet my fiance is excited.
The strange part … I don’t really have a vision of my wedding. I never “dreamed” this fantasy wedding. I just.. figured maybe it would happen one day, hopefully to someone I loved who would be my equal partner. I’ve found that, he proposed I was thrilled. So… yeah.
I already sorta have what I wanted. I want an “I do” or ” Commitment to marriage/unity” but I never plotted out some dream wedding.
Is this maybe the reason I dread having to plan this affair? How do I turn what feels already like a weight (planning some well choreographed party for 100-125 people) into something fun?