(Closed) Newly engaged = overwhelmed

posted 5 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 2
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Aug 23, 2014

Congrats!! How exciting!

I have found knot.com to be really helpful especially with making our wedding website!!


Have fun and enjoy being engaged and the whole planning process!! It goest by quickly!!

Post # 3
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

First, congrats and welcome to the Bee. 🙂

Second, treat yourself to this book:


Me’s book and website (apracticalwedding.com) are great tools for finding and maintianing your focus on what matters most to you and your Fiance, whatever that may be. Happy planning.

Post # 4
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Miss.Pretzel:  First, Congratulations!!!  I felt exactly the same when I got engaged.  Don’t worry, just write out what you need to do and tackle things one by one.  How much time until your wedding?  Start with the most important things first- what is your vision for your wedding day?  Do you want a big or small wedding?  Writing out your guest list can help you see how many people you want to invite.  Then look at venues.  Once you pick a venue and marriage location, photographers and DJ’s/music should be next on your list.  Good luck and pm me if you need advice 🙂

Post # 5
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - The Fox Hill Inn

Congratulations on your engagement! I totally understand your feelings… I felt the same way! We got engaged on Christmas, so add in the excitement of the engagement, Christmas, New Years, lots of family and not being able to get ANYTHING accomplished because everyone you try to contact is out of the office until the new year… I was one stressed bride-to-be! I ended up purchasing every wedding magazine I could find to at least start putting my ideas together so I would have something to do with my excitement and new found hobby. I came across the wedding edition of Real Simple magazine and in there was a reasonable timeline of what you should be doing in a certain timeframe out from the wedding. I knew that venues were going to have to be the first thing, because without that booked you can’t get anything done. We made a preliminary guest list to get an idea of the number of people and started looking as soon as possible. Once we set the date and put a deposit on the venue, the next most important thing to me was the photographer so I found and booked her almost immediately after the venue. From there I used the timline (and still do!) to figure out what needed to be done when. It will all fall into place and if you try to do too many things at a time you’ll get incredibly stressed and overwhelmed (unless you’re a superhero multitasker!). 

I’ve used theknot.com and weddingwire.com for ideas here and there. I also came across wedding.com where you sing up (it’s free) and check off what you’re looking for; i.e. venue, florist, photographer, etc and they send you messages and quotes so you don’t have to do the searching! I also found that the recommended vendor list from my venue was helpful as a place to start. If you start feeling overwhelmed just tell yourself it will all fall into place and your wedding day will be beautiful! Congrats again. 🙂

Post # 6
40 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Home

Congrats!  Enjoy your engagement and the planning process.  Fundamentally, you will initially need to set a date, and back everything in from that.  Get some bridals mags, a wedding planner book and talk to friends and family who have been married to see what they did.  I absoutely LOVED the planning process and would do it again in a heartbeat!

Post # 7
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Miss.Pretzel:  I highly recomend the book A Practical Wedding by Meg Keene.  It’s a GREAT resource for keeping you focused on what matters and keeping your sanity.

She also has a website which is fun – apractialwedding.com.  Between that and Pinterest, it was all I really needed.

Post # 8
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Hi!  Just dropping by to say congratulations and that I can totally relate to feeling overwhelmed!  Like some of the previous posters I really like apracticalwedding.com.  That and offbeatbride.com make me feel like I can manage this whole wedding planning process successfully

Post # 9
3 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

Oh my goodness! I’m in that boat right now. I got engaged on Saturday and I’m feeling pressured and rushed to start planning. I’m turning 35 next month so I do want to get married sooner than later, but I also want to be able to enjoy this time without jumping straight into chaos. 

Post # 10
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Congratulations! I wish I had heard of that A Practical Wedding book, because I felt overwhelmed through much of the planning process. My advice is to set a date that makes sense and gives you plenty of time. We planned an October wedding after a June proposal, and a would have loved more time. I used http://www.weddingwire.com for planning help, guest lists, website, etc. and it was definitely helpful. Pinterest and magazines are great for inspirattion. My mother helped a lot and if it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t have been able to pull it off in my timeline. 

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