Newly engaged wedding planning

posted 7 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

The first thing to do is to set a budget. Decide about how many people you want to feed and see how much it will cost at various venues and in various styles. Don’t get hung up deciding details until you get the main outline–about how many and about how much–set.

Have the wedding you can afford. Don’t let people promise you money and pull your strings.

Post # 3
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Definitely make sure your photographer and DJ are secured, as people are booking out in advance with covid and you don’t want to lose the date. 

My second recommendation is not to do bridal party proposals until closer to the date (a year out, perhaps) unless you’re 100% sure.  It’s a sad fact of life, but a lot can happen in almost two years.  Friends grow apart (we see it all the time on this board that a potential bridesmaid has become hostile or even just distant during wedding planning and the bride feels stuck), relationships with friends and family alike can become strained. 

Color scheme. If you start with your flowers, for instance, you can grab colors from your florals to do the rest of the decorations.  Mine were burgundy, mauve, ivory, and gold, for example.  So we did ivory tablecloths, gold chargers, gold mercury votives, gold vases, mauve velvet napkins, burgundy and ivory menu cards, and burgundy table numbers. It’s never too early to start and continue to perfect your look book!  

Post # 4
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

The Knot has a decent list? I didn’t find it amazing, but you can edit it as you want. I honestly use it mostly for the timeline (each as a ‘due date’, also editable). I found a free spreadsheet online for wedding planning and then made a decent amount of changes to it. 

Post # 5
757 posts
Busy bee

I think the only thing you really NEED to do right now is book your vendors – photographers can book up especially quickly. Might want to secure a florist too if your venue doesn’t do that. 

Then I’d start having fun with decor, flowers and invitations. Lurk around pinterest and stuff, narrow down a colour palette, and see where you can  source the bits and bobs. That stuff can easily be done within 6-12 month mark, so it’s not a huge rush. 

Dress I would wait until a year or so out. Styles and your body can change, even if it’s slight changes it’s more fun to have something fresh for the day. 

I would hold off on wedding party proposals too, unless it’s like your sisters or something that 1000% will not change.  

Post # 6
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2021

Im drowning in wedding planning right now so here’s what comes to mind in no order. First book the venue then go ahead and book the photos and dj. Does the venue include catering food and drinks what are they? Is there a bar is so do you need to decide a menu ? Go wedding cake testing! I suggest making a colored guest list green pen for people who must come (parents, sibings) yellow for people you really want there but aren’t a deal breaker (aunt, friend you don’t see much) and red for people are not as significant. Take dance lessons with your SO if that’s something your into. Make a play list for the wedding day including what you walk down the isle to and what your special dance songs will be. Go ahead and look at save the dates there’s so many options to choose from! Have a theme and color scheme and overall theme that you want. After the wedding where will you stay? If you have animals who will take care of them? Do you want to have a flower girl/ ring barrer if so who? Go ahead and start looking a dress styles and colors but I wouldn’t suggest buying one this early on. Decide if you want to write your own vows you have plenty of time to perfect them! And one of the best parts of all start looking at honeymoon options COVID and COVID free friendly! Wishing you the best of luck! 

Post # 7
4697 posts
Honey bee

The biggest pain in the ass and time consuming thing for me was getting the correct spelling of everybody’s name (especially partners’ that I did not know well), preferred salutations, and addresses. I would work on that now. 

Post # 8
757 posts
Busy bee

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@zl27:  YES I forgot about that. Getting addresses and people’s last names was a way bigger pain than I thought it would be. I didn’t always know which family members legally changed their maiden names and that kind of thing. 

We actually did our save the dates digitally and had them put in their addresses when they RSVP’d and that was super helpful. The only trouble was that of course not everyone RSVP’d until they received the actual invitation. But it did make it a bit easier. 


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