- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
@lookingforadvice77: Take it from me. Divorce is an ugly, emotionally draining ordeal – not to mention incredibly expensive. But if you are in the wrong relationship, it’s better to end it now before you have kids, a house, etc. If you’ve been in therapy and you’re still unhappy with the way your life is going, GET OUT NOW.
I have been in your exact shoes. I met my ex-husband when I was 19 – he was my second serious boyfriend. We never should have been married, but at by the time I was 25 and had dragged out our engagement for four years, he told me I had to marry him or break up with him. I was terrified to leave the stability of the relationship, so I married him. It backfired in the worst way. After all the excitement of the wedding wore off, I realized I was miserable. It ultimately poisioned the entire marriage for both of us. Yes, the divorce was sad and I second guessed myself many times as I moved out of our apartment and struck out on my own. But that struggle allowed me to grow and find myself: and the man I was truly meant to be with. It also allowed my ex to find someone who could love him in the way he deserved – it was a better ending for everyone involved.