- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So basically, my fiancee and I are getting married August 18th after a long many years together and apart because of his med school and residency. We broke up, we tried distance, and we got back together.
I moved to where he lives to support him and make sure we stayed close during his medical residency but it was so lonely and I realized how fulfilling his career was to him that I applied to graduate school. Now it is the spring before our wedding, and three months before he is done with residency and he just got a great job offer in my hometown where my family lives.
The only problem, is not only did I get into grad school but I got offerred a full-ride.. in a different state. I got into Louisiana State Univ for a Master’s in Mass Communication, which is in Baton Rouge with a grad assistantship and tuition waived. I also got into Christie’s Education in New York and London (but the price tag is so huge I’m not sure I want to go there even though I’ve worked in art for several years).
My fiancee got offerred jobs in my hometown in Colorado and in New Orleans, LA… an hour and a half from my full ride offer in Baton Rouge. But, the program is two years and he would rather take the job in Colorado. I feel a little resentful because I’ve made it work (although not always gracefully) during his residency for “us” and I’m annoyed he won’t move to Louisiana with me.
He says if we eventually want to end up in Colorado near my family it makes more sense but it’s disheartening because we would get married two days before I’d have to leave to start grad school.
The benefit of the Christie’s program is I’d be an expert in my field, with a lot of debt. The benefit of the LSU program is I wouldn’t have much debt and I’d have a degree relatable to a lot of different fields, cities, markets. I LOVE the Christie’s program but don’t really want to live in NY by myself. London on the other hand I could do. But the jobs afterwards would keep me in a bigger city… not my hometown.
So I feel stuck. I’m so proud of myself! Yet frustrated with my future marriage/husband and annoyed I feel like I have to choose between the home life I want and a professional life.
Ideally, I want a grad degree to feel good about myself, to have more security in the work place and because I always though I would get a grad degree. I feel a bit naked without it and don’t want to just sit chained to a desk that will pay me. I want my work to be interesting. Having watched him give up and sacrifice so much of our relationship for his career, I feel like it is my turn.
Thoughts, ideas… ???? Vote!