- 4 years ago
I’m officially a married woman! I can’t tell you how happy I am, and how much I love the word “husband.”
Now that the wedding is over, I can look back on it with more clarity. Here are some of my take aways.
1. Don’t overly stress over guest numbers. – I was hell bent on having the most accurate count to our venue. I was so worried that they would come to us at the end of the night and request payment for 5 additional people who got invited through word of mouth, or had RSVPd “no” but came anyway. If your numbers are pretty well maintained, and you’ve done all your homework of getting RSVPS, you’ll be fine. I stressed over last minute additions, and I know I made an ass of myself. It was all unnessecary. Some who said they would come and had RSVPd yes, did not come, which I had deluded myself into the unicorn fantasty that every guest who RSVPd yes would come. All those last minute additions, and the plus ones who showed up evened everything out.
2. If something is important to someone else, but not to you, it’s okay to give in. – My mom and I had this weird thing over decor. I didn’t care, and didn’t want to pay for extra decor. I knew guests would not notice or remember those details, and the venue was pretty in its own right. However, those little details were very important to my mom. What she was looking at was not that expensive. I wish now that I would have been more lenient in adding decorations to the budget and more willing to listen to all of her ideas and help make decorations. I had this very stubborn attitude of it being my wedding, and I didn’t want them and did not care about them, so everyone else just needed to drop it. But really, I was being quite selfish.
3. Things will go wrong, but those who love you are there to support you. – It’s so funny, because I found out after I returned from my honeymoon about all the things that went wrong that I didn’t even know about. My family and friends were there for me and fixed everything before I could even notice something went wrong. I worked so hard to be sure we didn’t forget anything, and we didn’t, but I think I stress more than was needed before the big event.
4. Don’t buy into the whole, “You won’t even get a chance to eat, and it passes in a blur, and you won’t even remember, and you’ll be so tired after” hype. – Maybe this is the case for some, but I did not find this to be the case for me at all. However, personally, I was a bad host. I did not talk to all of my guests. I completely forgot about ensuring we had a receiving line amidst the schedule for pictures and all the other events, and I didn’t make it to every table to thank everyone. I did eat though, and had two pieces of cake. I was so consumed with ensuring I enjoyed my wedding, I ate our food and cake, and got pics in the photo booth with my groom, that the night passed by and guests had left, and I didn’t even get to talk to them. I feel extremely guilty and awful about this. People want you to enjoy yourself. People will make sure you eat. Don’t stress so much about that, instead focus on making sure you speak to every guest.
5. Do splurge on the honeymoon if you’re able. – My DH and I are financially stable, but we’re both naturally frugal. I kept trying to rein in our spending with all the wedding expenses, honeymoon, and moving in together expenses. Once we were on our honeymoon, I wished I had been more open to spending more. We had a fabulous time, and I enjoyed every minute of our honeymoon, but I wish I had told DH, let’s just do it and been more open to spending more for the honeymoon suite.