(Closed) Newly Married with Wedding Day Advice

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Oh course you will have all the time in the world to eat if you do not go around to tables to chat with guests during dinner!  Personal priorities, but I am so glad we ate quickly so that we had time to engage with the people who came from far and wide to celebrate with us!  I agree with most of the rest of your advice, but I think it is so much more important to interact with guests than have two pieces of cake.  If I go to someone’s wedding and they never even talk to me, that is pretty offensive in my book.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

“If something is important to someone else, but not to you, it’s okay to give in.”

Yes! I took this approach very early on. I knew I was really upsetting my parents with a few things about the wedding that were really important to DH and me (like not having a religious ceremony), so in literally any other situation where they wanted something that I didn’t care about, I happily conceded. They paid for the wedding too so I didnt really feel like it was appropriate to go against them in the rare even we clashed on something like decor or even the guest list. 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I think your advice is spot on, particularly #4. We wanted to make sure we enjoyed our own wedding! Its so sad to attend a wedding and see the couple stressed out or frazzled. I wouldn’t advocate not even attempting to speak with each guest but if its a large wedding I’m sure people would understand. If I come to a wedding with 150+ people and I didn’t get a moment with the couple its understandable, I’m just happy to share in the joy of their day. Ours was small ish so we made time to enjoy a bit of cocktail hour, our food, a few private moments on the terrace and even each other in the bridal suite. 👀 Still had time to interact with each individual guest. Congrats!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I mean, just to throw a different opinion in there, I don’t mind, as a guest, when I don’t get a chance to speak to the bride and groom on their wedding day (especially if I don’t know them very well). I get that they’re pretty busy. 🙂

That said, all your other points ring true in my experience, too!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

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knotyet :  Ok, I think I understand now. When you say “4. Don’t buy into the whole, “You won’t even get a chance to eat, and it passes in a blur, and you won’t even remember, and you’ll be so tired after” hype. – ” you’re saying don’t buy into the hype of trying to AVOID this scenario, because it’s inevitable if you greet and thank your guests properly? That makes sense and I agree — the whole reason why it’s such a blur is because you’re going from person to person and group to group. If you skip that it won’t be such a blur and you’ll get to eat, but like you found, you’ll end up feeling like a less-than-gracious host. Hopefully your guests will understand and this advice plus all your other good points should help other brides and brides-to-be make the most of this special time.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We went around to all the guest tables and got a photo with each one AND had time to eat our 3 course meal 🙂 we chatted and danced with heaps of people too, and hugged everyone. Mind you we had 85 guests, so with a lot more than that it might not have worked.  

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