(Closed) Newly moved in with SO. It's awesome, but…

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 32
4656 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My ex used to do that. In fact he put his car keys in the spice cabinet once.  We searched high and low for them.  He eventually used his spare set but for some reason everytime he unlocked the car the alarm would go off. Fortunately we found them a week later.

Post # 33
6887 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Must be a guy thing my Darling Husband does this to and it drives me freaking bonkers! His brothers also do it, so they must have learned it growing up!!

Post # 34
10018 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

The other day I walked into the kitchen and about half the cabinet doors were open. 

I was like . . . WTH? 

Then I realized it was me  who’d left them open – after emptying the dishwasher.  Embarassed

Post # 35
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Haha!! My husband does the same thing! It is really the only thing (cleaning-wise) that he does that drives me INSANE! He will cook dinner, which is lovely, and then leave every. door. open. WTF?! It’s so funny! It’s like once they are open he can’t see them! lol!!

Post # 36
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That must be a guy thing – my Fiance does it too! Leaves the toaster oven open, and cabinets.  Also, his dresser drawers – all of them all the time! It drives me INSANE! I’ve gently mentioned it to him, but it really hasn’t improved.  I’ve officially gotten used to it and gotten over the thought of it changing – so hopefully (for your sanity) you get to that point too!  In the whole scheme of things you will encounter to “nag” him about on the home front, this will be one of the lowest on the prioirty list – trust me! ๐Ÿ˜‰  Save it for something REALLY annoying!

Post # 37
11465 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I must admit that my biggest pet peeve at home is when my teenaged stepchildren (and occasionally my DH) will get up from sitting on a piece of furniture and will leave the room without straightening the throw pillows, chair-arm covers, ottoman, throws, etc. I really hate looking across the room to see throw pillows tossed here and there, the throw balled up in the middle of the sofa, chair-arm covers falling off of a chair, the ottoman not parallel to chair in front of which it sits, etc.  My family thinks I’m OCD, but I am just trying to have things look neat, the way that they’re supposed to look, LOL.

I also do not like when the kids come home from school and kick off their shoes and socks in a random location. When I find flip flops, athletic shoes, etc. tossed in no logical direction, not lined up against a wall or something, I usually end up tossing them into the hall closet, because it bugs me to see them. I also don’t want to find sweatshirts or jackets in odd places instead of the closet.

I guess the fact that I was single and had lived alone for 23 years before marrying a man with multiple kids and a dog means that it’s taken me some time to become accustomed to having a home that sometimes looks too lived in for my taste. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
3552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m the one who leaves the cabinets open, but in my defense I’m usually cooking and still in the kitchen. My SO hates it though because the one I tend to leave open has my cooking oils in it and is high enough for me to walk under, but hits him in the head. The thing that he does that drives me nuts is he’ll mostly load the diswasher and put all the things that were soaking in the sink in it….and then not start it, even when there’s enough dirty dishes still sitting on the counter to fill it. The whole point of soaking stuff is to loosen it so the dishwasher can clean it. Letting it dry back on defeats the purpose. But, he does all the dishes and most of the laundry so I’m gratefull, I just have to cook and clean the bathroom.

Post # 39
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@buzzyplush:  +1

Yes, here are mine:

1. he finishes the milk and leaves the empty container on the counter even though the trashcan is literally right there. milk containers, water bottles, green tea cans, you name it. 

2. doesn’t take out the trash, even if the trash is stinking up the entire house

3. finishes eating a dinner I made, leaves dish with food remnants in sink, does not rinse them off = stinky kitchen in morning.

4. He comes home from work, throws his scrubs and socks on top of our entryway statue like it’s some kind of floor level clothes hamper even though the laundry room is right there with the hamper inside. Is that for me? Am I supposed to pick that up? Um…NO.

The following above items have put me in a murderous rage so great I feel like my face is on fire.

He’s gotten better with my threats of a painful death but his instinct is still to do it. 

Post # 40
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

haha. that reminds me of that scene in 6th Sense!!

You’ll learn to live and compromise… I’m still reminding Darling Husband to soak his dishes if he doesn’t want to wash them! I HATE crusty dishes!!!!

Post # 41
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Unfortunately, I’m the messy one : ( I just don’t notice when there’s a mess, or I forget that I left the toaster out, etc. I grew up in a super messy house, and got really used to just stepping over things and not being bothered by them. I’m trying to train myself to pay more attention, but I haven’t had a lot of luck.

Post # 42
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh the cabinet door thing used to really get me.  Tons of different things used to drive me crazy.  Then one day I decided just not to care.  Now if the cabinet door is open I just close it without even thinking about it.  Problem solved and no simmering anger at Darling Husband.  My mom comes to stay with us for the summer, and that stuff gets her, and I just shrug and I’m like “take it up with him”.

The cool thing about the cabinet doors being open is that when I close them I’ve improved the look of our kitchen immeasurably in like one second, which I sort of enjoy.

Post # 43
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

๐Ÿ™ i do this in our house ( i dont even realize i do it) that and not closing the steel door all the way. Drives my husband NUTS. So I can see how you would feel but i see his side too lol i sorry :/

Post # 44
879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had an easy transition moving into together (I’m definitely thankful), but the major thing that bugged me was my Fiance used to never turn off the lights whenever he left an empty room. Many nights I would come home and seriously all the lights in every room would be on, lol. I would always ask him to turn off the lights or I would just do it myself. He’s gotten better and it’s more of a joke to us now. His parents like to leave the lights on at their place, so I guess I can’t blame him too much.

At least the cabinet is high up where you can’t hit your head!

Post # 45
3419 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Socks…on the floor….piss me off!!!!

Post # 46
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My Fiance is a volunteer fireman…so we have socks and t-shirts and pants all over the house!!  Cause you never know when his pager will go off.  Bless his heart though he has tried to change.  Now they just go in a pile on the washer.  LOL – men!  ๐Ÿ™‚

He also likes to eat all of my healthy food.  I mean what man wants low-fat cheese sticks and turkey sausage??  Apparently mine! 

Thankfully he did stop one habit that drove me to the brink.  When he would eat the last of something in a box he would just put the empty box back in the cupboard and not throw it away.  DROVE ME INSANE (okay maybe not the brink but you get my drift).  And honestly not because I would have to throw it away.  It drove me nuts cause inevitably the empty box use to house something delicious…that I would would be craving…and I would be sad that it was all gone. 

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