(Closed) Newly pregnant and worried about smoking FIL

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think you have anything to worry about.  If it bothers you, try to leave the room.

Post # 4
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you staying with them?  I hope that’s not the case.  As for him smoking in his house, do you think there is any way to get them out of the house?  Tell them you want to take them out to a nice dinner and wouldn’t dream of making them cook or something?  Honestly, being around smoke makes me so sick that I couldn’t handle that at all!

Congrats BTW!

Post # 6
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@charismaclassic: Aww I’m sorry you are going through this! 

Could you use a headache excuse?  Maybe say, I have a really bad headache could you step outside? 

Maybe also limit the amount of time you spend at the house.  Instead of going over there to chit-chat, maybe suggest they meet you for coffee or something where you would be free from the smoke. 

Post # 7
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats ! I can’t wait till I can say the same !!

My hubby smokes and so do his parents. In the house, all time. I’m so worried about this and I’m not even pregnant yet. I understand you don’t want to share your news yet so I’m not sure what you can do πŸ™

I guess I just wanted to say congrats πŸ™‚

Post # 8
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think the idea of saying you have a headache is a really good one. It will also let you say you need to go back to the hotel to lie down. And honestly, with all the smoke, it’s pretty likely you would have a headache anyway :(. I know he yelled at your Darling Husband, but since you’re not immediate family, maybe he’ll just begrudgingly listen instead of yelling at you.

Congrats and good luck!

Post # 9
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010


I think I would just say you have a headache and excuse yourself.

Post # 10
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@charismaclassic: I like the headache excuse but couldn’t you use it for yourself and just excuse yourself from the room when he smokes? I’m not pregnant but I do have averse reactions to different kinds of smoke so temporarily leaving works well for me. Then neither of you have to go out in Detroit in the winter… can’t be comfortable for him to freeze out there either you know? And he doesn’t sound like he’d be pleasant about it, since unfortunately it is his house πŸ™ Previous ideas about not spending much time there are also good!


And Congratulations! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Could you lie and say you just visited the doctor and found out you’re allergic to cigarette smoke?  Ugh, I smoked for years and still think smoking inside is just….icky. πŸ™

Post # 12
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Can you pull out the allergy card? I have horrid allergies and it’s the only way I was able to get my folks from smoking in the house. Blech.

Otherwise, just excuse yourself from the room–he probably won’t even notice, you know?

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