- 4 years ago
I’ve been lurking here for a month and thought I’d introduce myself. My boyfriend and I live in SoCal and have been together for 7 years. We talked about marriage pretty early in our relationship (we were very close friends before dating, and kind of knew we were “it” for each other when we decided to level up our friendship, haha) but have taken our time about it as we’ve gone through various life and career changes over the years. Finally, we are getting ready to take the plunge! We’ve looked at rings, thrown around some possible timelines/logistics, and discussed it (informally) with our family and friends. This has been a long time coming and is not even slightly surprising to anyone we know (even our tax lady’s been like, “Get on with it, already!”)–a situation where we both already feel more or less married and have mostly been putting off organizing the actual paperwork of it all.
I know I’m getting a proposal because he told me so and because it’s something that matters to him; but it’s honestly something that I view as a sweet but totally unnecessary gesture after so long together. My parents were never officially “engaged”–they wanted to get married, and they did, no e-ring or proposal beforehand–and he and I have lived together for years, we manage our finances jointly, his work even considers us “domestic partners” (like, literally I am covered by his health insurance). We are the “Mom and Dad” of our friends group, etc.
I say all this not because I don’t think it’s romantic that he wants to plan a proposal, or because I wouldn’t love some engagement bling (I will totally appreciate both!), but to emphasize that a formal proposal and engagement are things that 1. are more of a fun bonus than a requirement for me, and 2. are things that I’ve known are coming eventually.
So…imagine my surprise when my mom let slip that my sweet, wonderful boyfriend sat my parents down to formally ask their permission, and I immediately melted into a big ol’ puddle of feels! I was not surprised that she couldn’t keep a lid on it (I love her dearly, but that woman can’t keep a secret), but I did not expect to feel so giddy about all of this! I knew it was coming and was like, “Good, that’s something we’ll be able to cross off our to-do list finally,” but at the same time, I almost can’t believe that I’m going to have the incredible good fortune to be with this person for the rest of my life. So here I am now, officially waiting, and loving all the warm-fuzzies and anticipation coming with it.
7 years felt like nothing, but now I feel like even one more week is forever to wait. Hah! So much for my cynical, practical heart! 😉