Post # 16
kaitmoush : I like PP’s suggestion of calling it a “ring ceremony”. That’s kind of cool.
The people attending the Saturday wedding will want to feel like they are part of the wedding, ya know? I don’t think there is anything wrong with treating it like an actual ceremony. It’s a different one than the religious one and that’s OK.
My fiance and I are doing a destination wedding and becuase of that, we have to get legally married here in Canada before we leave, so technically our “wedding” will only be a symbolic ceremony, but the one with all our friends and family is the one that we will be treating as the “real” wedding. The civil ceremony will just be us saying the required words and signing the required papers. The vows we make in front of our family and friends are the ones we will focus on.
Post # 17
I vote to use Saturday as an opportunity to write your own vows as with the Catholic ceremony you are unable to do so. I would also word it as a celebration of your marriage or celebration of your love (if you feel weird calling it a wedding) and hold the whole shebang! Congrats on the May wedding! We are month twins!
Post # 18
I’m not catholic but I agree with the previous comments that “vow renewal” may lead to some confusion for your guests. If I were in your shoes I would have the catholic wedding like you intended and then do a “wedding celebration” or “ring ceremony” with everyone. Still not sure what the terminology would be. You should look and see if you can find anything regarding mormon weddings. It’s pretty common for them to do receptions after their temple sealing since not everyone can go. Maybe get some ideas from that? Is it possible you could move the reception/big group thing to be the same day or next day from your catholic wedding? Do you know anyone else who’s done this? They may be a good resource for you! Also, if you’re doing your reception/party seperately from the wedding it may be a bit much to have it be as elaborate as a traditional wedding would be. Have you thought about doing an “I Do BBQ”? Or maybe look into the parties people throw when they elope or have a destination wedding and then go back to their home town?
Edit: I did some googling & it looks like you’re best bet will be calling it a “ring ceremony”. It looks like that is commonly used terminology among religous communities.
Post # 19
We got ‘legal married’ at a registry office (uk) on the Tuesday ( 2 witnesses, signing paperwork, non-event), then had a blessing in a chapel (our actual wedding) on the Saturday. Our invites read ‘we request the pleasure of your company at the blessing of the marriage of X and Y’. Our service was exactly like a ‘church wedding’ but without signing a register. Just a thought…!