(Closed) newlywed and sick of weddings

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hope the irony is not lost on you that you posted this on a wedding website 😉 Sorry to hear that ceremonies aren’t your thing. Unfortunately, in the US, there’s no polite way to attend just the reception.

Post # 5
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@MrsBroccoli:  really? I see people do it all the time. There were a couple other weddings in the area the same day as mine, and we had multiple people split time – go to my ceremony and another reception or vice versa. We only went to DH’s cousin’s reception because we couldn’t make it to the Friday morning ceremony.

It seems fairly common to me for people to do that. Sometimes the timing or personal preference just doesn’t work out to attend both. OP, I wouldn’t worry about it, if going to ceremonies bothers you, just go to the reception – as long as you’re invited to it, of course 🙂

Post # 6
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

What is it about the ceremony that rubs you the wrong way?  

I haven’t liked going to weddings after my own – but that’s just because I nitpick and can’t believe how haphazard certain things were at each…..

Post # 7
1932 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

@SimplyChic11:  I can kind of relate.. I love weddings, but every time I go to one, I feel completely cheated because my special day also didn’t go as planned. To make a long story short, we lost our reception venue the day before the wedding so we had to last-minute move it to the church basement. I bawled my eyes out. I kept telling myself the marriage is what matters, not the wedding. But It was seriously hard for me. And to this day (over 1.5 years later), I still feel cheated, disappointed, hurt, upset, and angry. It’s really hard to enjoy other people’s weddings that are so beautiful because my reception was AWFUL and ugly and we couldn’t even have the dance because there is a no dancing policy at the church! 

What happened with your day?

Post # 8
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am sorry you can’t shake these bad feelings of your wedding day. I just wanted to tell you that I looked at your pictures and you looked so beautiful and I loved your ceremony space and many of your details. How about planning special vow renewal for your anniversary, maybe you and some of the very few people who were there for you can go to a sandals resort and have a great vacation and have one night to celebrate your anniversary as well as a vow renewal…

Post # 9
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve totally lost interest in anything wedding, but it doesn’t rub me the wrong way.  I was the type that really hated spending a day at a wedding, but think I may enjoy reliving my own at one.

So sorry your day was so not what you had planned for.

Post # 10
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Hmmm. I guess my reasons are a little different. I’m just weddinged out. Period.

Post # 12
399 posts
Helper bee

I’m with you MissPumpkin! I never go to the ceremony unless a.)I’m in the wedding b.) its my brother/BFF/other very close person or c.)its at the same place as the reception. No one has ever noticed or said anything about it. In fact, on our RSVP cards we have 3 boxes guests can check: *attending the whole she-bang! *i don’t do ceremonies, see you at the party *devastated i can’t come!

Also, in tiny lettering that looks like handwiritng, next to the “only the party” one, it says “psssst! it’s okay!”


Post # 13
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I used to LOVE weddings and now they make me want to puke. But you should be respectful of other people’s big day and go to the ceremony to support them…  even if you need a little drinky drinky beforehand to make it fun.

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