Post # 1
Anyone in the same boat?
In my own wedding planning I just came across too many pushy people, too many pushy ideas to be comfortable with the whole idea of fomal weddings these days. :/
Don’t get me wrong, I love hearing love stories and love seeing the couple after the wedding. It’s just going through the ceremony and all that jazz that puts a damper on my mood to the extreme!
Maybe it was that my own day was pretty horrid, I don’t know. I just dread going to another wedding.
Post # 3
I hope the irony is not lost on you that you posted this on a wedding website 😉 Sorry to hear that ceremonies aren’t your thing. Unfortunately, in the US, there’s no polite way to attend just the reception.
Post # 4
I got the irony lol. I love helping with details of weddings but sitting through one is another thing entirely :/ It just brings up too many bad feelings. I hope time helps that go away but honestly the next wedding I plan on attending is probably one for our children.
Post # 5
@MrsBroccoli: really? I see people do it all the time. There were a couple other weddings in the area the same day as mine, and we had multiple people split time – go to my ceremony and another reception or vice versa. We only went to DH’s cousin’s reception because we couldn’t make it to the Friday morning ceremony.
It seems fairly common to me for people to do that. Sometimes the timing or personal preference just doesn’t work out to attend both. OP, I wouldn’t worry about it, if going to ceremonies bothers you, just go to the reception – as long as you’re invited to it, of course 🙂
Post # 6
What is it about the ceremony that rubs you the wrong way?
I haven’t liked going to weddings after my own – but that’s just because I nitpick and can’t believe how haphazard certain things were at each…..
Post # 7
@SimplyChic11: I can kind of relate.. I love weddings, but every time I go to one, I feel completely cheated because my special day also didn’t go as planned. To make a long story short, we lost our reception venue the day before the wedding so we had to last-minute move it to the church basement. I bawled my eyes out. I kept telling myself the marriage is what matters, not the wedding. But It was seriously hard for me. And to this day (over 1.5 years later), I still feel cheated, disappointed, hurt, upset, and angry. It’s really hard to enjoy other people’s weddings that are so beautiful because my reception was AWFUL and ugly and we couldn’t even have the dance because there is a no dancing policy at the church!
What happened with your day?
Post # 8
I am sorry you can’t shake these bad feelings of your wedding day. I just wanted to tell you that I looked at your pictures and you looked so beautiful and I loved your ceremony space and many of your details. How about planning special vow renewal for your anniversary, maybe you and some of the very few people who were there for you can go to a sandals resort and have a great vacation and have one night to celebrate your anniversary as well as a vow renewal…
Post # 9
I’ve totally lost interest in anything wedding, but it doesn’t rub me the wrong way. I was the type that really hated spending a day at a wedding, but think I may enjoy reliving my own at one.
So sorry your day was so not what you had planned for.
Post # 10
Hmmm. I guess my reasons are a little different. I’m just weddinged out. Period.
Post # 11
@miss-spunkin: Thanks for the comments everyone. I’ll answer what happened with my day.
Thanks for the comments on my photos. I agree it was gorgeous. I’m a designer so a lot of the DIY details turned out beautifully. In the photos it looks picture perfect, but that’s how it always is right?
I cried most of the day and felt so abandoned that no one was there for me on my wedding day, I spent most of it alone. I’m having a hard time forgiving the friends who bailed on me as honorary bridesmaids, brought an extra family member halfway through the reception and left after 30 minutes leaving a very empty table near me. My wedding reminds me of how badly my in laws treated my husband that night, ignoring him after we extended the invite from an already rocky relationship with them. How I bit back tears as my Brother-In-Law dissed me to my face and continually belittled me in front of everyone at the reception.
IT was lovely. Really. The details were beautiful, Darling Husband and I danced and he sang in my ear during our first dance. I loved it. I love him.
There is just something about weddings that I feel I am permanently scarred from right now. I can’t sit through a wedding and not feel pangs of pain and/or jealousy over people who actually have people there celebrating with them over their ‘big day’. My day wasn’t big, but a big let down. I feel it just reinstated my feelings that I have very few people in the world who are close to me or would stand up for me in those situations. I am trying hard to forget the bad details but every time a wedding comes up, I try so hard to be happy for the couple …. but find the pain cutting too deeply when it comes to seeing how happy others are for them. We never had that.
I want to celebrate someday. We never had an engagement party, my friends (that I mentioned before) wanted to throw me a bachelorette party but failed in that as well… they wanted to throw another party after the wedding. That’s not going to happen.
Longggg story short for those who scanned such a long story… 😉 through my wedding we lost friends, Darling Husband lost much of the hope for closeness with all his family, etc. It just brings up too many bad feelings to be happy.
Post # 12
I’m with you MissPumpkin! I never go to the ceremony unless a.)I’m in the wedding b.) its my brother/BFF/other very close person or c.)its at the same place as the reception. No one has ever noticed or said anything about it. In fact, on our RSVP cards we have 3 boxes guests can check: *attending the whole she-bang! *i don’t do ceremonies, see you at the party *devastated i can’t come!
Also, in tiny lettering that looks like handwiritng, next to the “only the party” one, it says “psssst! it’s okay!”
Post # 13
I used to LOVE weddings and now they make me want to puke. But you should be respectful of other people’s big day and go to the ceremony to support them… even if you need a little drinky drinky beforehand to make it fun.