Newlywed, First Year Teacher…and Pregnant!

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh goodness I feel for you! I’m not a first year teacher yet, but I’ve done some of my student teaching and even that is overwhelming with making all of the lesson plans and stuff. It’s definitely difficult because it isn’t easy to find a teaching job now, so if you have one lined up it would be hard to give up. On the other hand, I agree with some of the other bees in that you should make sure that you would get the leave you need for the first year. If not, I would probably consider taking the first year off since I would want to make sure I was home for a good amount of time if I could afford it!

Post # 18
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Since your husband doesn’t have a job that provides you benefits, essentially, you have to work. You don’t really have a choice! You NEED healthcare. You may get the 6 weeks leave (even if it’s unpaid), but then you’ll have to go back if your husband isn’t working and/or has no benefits to provide you. Plan ahead with your lesson plans. Just crank them out!

As far as it being a hard job, yeah, it’ll be hard. But LOTS of women have tough jobs. Nursesk lawyers, and doctors work long, hard hours, and are around cranky sick people a lot, so take solace in the fact that MANY woman work VERY stressful jobs, capping over 40 hours a week, and you won’t be the first to survive it =]. Don’t think of it as impossible, think of it as very possible.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

You really should take the job if at all possible.  Do your absolute best.  I suggest this mostly b/c of the insurance and also b/c of the time you would take off if you didn’t work this year.  I want to tell you there are a lot teacher layoffs in the midwest.  It’s almost impossible to find a position in teaching.  The universities in my state are finding it nearly impossible to place their students in student teaching positions, a lot of schools are closing.  I’m assuming it’s quite competitive elsewhere in the U.S., even if it’s not now, it will be b/c a lot of people are relocating so that they can teach.  Take the job so that you have experience and aren’t having to compete for a position if you took time off to have your child.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

I’m not a teacher, but I’d at least try to make it through the first semester.  Will your husband have insurance by then?  If it’s more than you can handle, just give your principal super advanced notice that you won’t come back after the break, so he/she can have a chance to hire someone over the break.  Hopefully he/she would understand if you aren’t well and would respect the advanced notice. 

You just don’t want to mess up your only reference, but ultimately your health is the most important.  I hate to say it, but it is still VERY early in your pregnancy, so I wouldn’t go quitting this early. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Actually, that will be a great time to be taking your leave, for you and baby anyway. You will be able to take the 6 weeks which MIGHT get you to the summer. That is very good for you and baby, extra time together without having to take more unpaid leave.

When you start you will be assigned a mentor. You should work very closely with this person to get you plans in order. It is never to early to get started on them!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Please do not do cannotwaits advice. If you bail out on a contract midyear it will be very difficult to get another job with that on your record. Also, can you imagine how your students would feel if their teacher just left them? Definite no-no.

I was a first year teacher last year. Yes, it’s hard and stressful but I think if you put your mind to it you can totally do it!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

All I’m saying is there is no guarantee you can make it through the first year; I’m not saying you shouldn’t try, nor does my post say that.  Things like bed rest happen to the best of us, and based on my pregnancy, you learn that not everything is in your control anymore.  I’m just trying to take into consideration ALL the factors the OP has mentioned, but she can take my advice or leave it…just remember that people have babies early, people have bed rest…either way you would have to leave your students during the first year, since you are due before summer break, anyway.

That being said, I wish you the happiest/healthiest pregnancy, and I hope the job works out for you!

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Why dont you substitute teach for the first yaer – it will give you a little bit more control over your schedule. I know how hard it is. I got married in univeristy and ended up pregnant. I had my son a few months into school and went back 2 weeks after my c-section. I had arranged my schedule ahead of time so all my classes were two days a week and i worked at a school helping in the classroom for part of those days. Its really tough. I am glad that I made my schedule workable around my son though becuase I would have hated to miss time with him. I took this past year off and am now entering teachers college this september and he is turning two. I think if you substitute you will continue to get experience until the baby is born and then you can continue to substitute even one day a week that way you have time with your baby. In the end its all about how you feel and what is right for you and your baby. everyones situation and feelings are different so take some time to think about it and good luck!

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