(Closed) Newlywed highs and lows

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m not married yet but good thread… should be interesting and insightful!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

One of the best things is somebody to share life with. It’s great to have someone to eat dinner with.

 

One of the worst things is sharing space like the bathroom especially since he’s not very neat.

 

It’s also scary sharing money and having to account to each other our expenses. However, at the same time it’s great to know somebody’s got your back if you get laid off or something.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

High: starting our plans that were for the future before and are present now – how exciting to realize your dreams with your dream man!

Low: trying to feel as much at home when moving in the house he’s owned and lived in even before he knew me. Big adjustments for both of us! We’re getting there though, with compromise!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Highs: I get to see Husband more now. We share chores and keep each other company. He’s better at money, so I’m getting better at money.

Lows: Little things become big annoyances. It feels like everything is more expensive now, insurance, groceries, etc.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Highs: Introducing him as my husband (it STILL feels awesome), having an excuse to stay in on Friday/Saturday nights (“oh, we’re an old married couple, now!”), planning more for our future (houses, 401Ks, kids, etc.).

Low: I honestly can’t think of anything. We lived together for four years before getting married, so nothing really changed and there wasn’t an adjustment period for us.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The best part…being married to my best friend…we still have late night 3:00am talks in bed like when we were in college…

the most challenging…being a bit of a neat freak and living with the messiest person I know!

I’ve had to just let it go sometimes…

him leaving socks in the middle of the floor? let it go…

Him not putting his jacket in the closet when he gets home?…let it go…

him not washing dishes or ever cleaning the bathroom? let it go…Yell

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

aww I like this thread!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

We will have lived together for over a year by the time we get married so I am interested in how our relationship will change. We are also moving to a new city so that should make things interesting! Looking forward to following this thread and seeing all the responses =)

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We moved in after 4mths of dating so by the time we got married 2 1/2 yrs later we did not have those living togehtor things to worry about. For us the high is the commitment to one another. We worked through all the bs while dating, had our highs and lows and battled through, now we are more in love than ever and really just enjoy each other and get so giddy when we are apart and miss each other. While dating we sometimes took that time for granted. The lows, honestly there really isn’t any. Hardest thing for me was letting go of my finances and letting us tackle our debts togethor but now we are debt free in such a short time. It is such a releif and a weight off our shoulders. The only thing that is kind of a low, is the inlaws. My Mother-In-Law seems to be a little more nosy and judgemental since we got married and really, I am finding it hard to even like her when before I loved her and defended her! Now I get what other people were talking about ….;0

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

High: Calling him my husband. We dated for 8/9 years (since I was 16) and calling him my ‘boyfriend’ never felt official enough. And ‘fiance’ just felt too awkward and fancy-pants.I always said we were ’emotionally married’ long before we were legally married.

 

Low: The wedding being over! lol

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

best part – just being married and the feeling of commitment

worst – figuring out our sex life and problems with that

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Highs: Having a husband!

Lows: Having the same sex issues as amariem, not really having my own life yet since moving across the country (which is lonely because my husband travels quite a bit).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

High: spending more quality time together and agreeing on big joint decisions based on our values that move the momentum of our life

Low: not being active  as much since we have become Lazybones Jones and like to stay at home a lot with each other (re:gaining a little weight)

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I hear you’ll on the intmacy issues. We’ve had those issues as well, especially since we waited for marriage.

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