(Closed) Newlywed, hurt by best friend’s roommate

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@jambee: Did your husband remain outside after she came running in to you? 

I agree that it’s best to not go over there anymore. How has your best friend handled it? Has she said anything to her roommate? I don’t think you’re overreacting; that’s rude and really weird.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jambee: I don’t think you are overacting at all, she sounds very immature and needy.

What does your friend think of this behavior? Does she see it too?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

No matter how great your bff is, you need to protect your home and family first.  Your bff should support this.  If she doesn’t, it’s a hard but necessary sacrifice, IMO.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think since you pulled her aside and told her how you feel without flipping out that you were very mature about the situation. I’m not sure I would have been able to stay as calm! Doesn’t you best friend realize her roommates actions are going to make your friendship awkward now? She must. With that being said, try to spend time with her at your house, where her roommate is not welcome. Tell her how you feel when her roommate acts like this, and that you don’t want your friendship to be different but you can’t be happy around her. Hopefully she understands how you feel.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is not okay to me, in no way shape or form. This woman obviously isn’t mature, what mature woman humps a married man? No other woman shoul hump your husband. That’s very out of line. & To me, she seems to know this as you said she is trying to get a rise out of you. Your husband comes first & if your friend doesn’t want to help by supporting you for not coming around her house anymore or by atleast saying something to this roommate, maybe its best to distance yourself. It seems like you said your peace to this roommate & done all you can do. Stay away from this woman & make lunch dates with your friend to keep in contact. Or invite HER over to your house, not the roommate. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

How strange. And I totally agree with your assesment, it sounds like she was trying to get a rise out of you.

She sounds very needy for attention, and doesn’t care if that attention is negative.

How did she respond when you pulled her aside? Did she apologize, laugh it off or what?

You handled it a lot better then I would have. I probably would have made some smart ass remark about how I was going home to really show him a good time while she would be sleeping alone in her virgin bed. Then walked out the door and asked my husband if he was ready for some real humping at home and left.

As far as your friend…does she see this girls strange behavior? If she has witnessed it, I’m sure she can understand why it makes you uncomfortable. It sounds as though she hasn’t grown up yet and doesn’t really understand how to act around boys 🙂

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is so immature.  I don’t even know what I would say to her!  I’m honestly surprised it’s not some kind of joke and she seriously humped him…wth. 

I wouldn’t see her anymore for sure.  She just wants attention.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Agreed that she just wants attention. Your Darling Husband sounds like he handled it maturely. Sorry you were in this awkward predicament!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

If your BFF is amazing as you say she is, I don’t think she should mind you avoiding her roommate at all costs now. Have drinks at your place, go out to dinner, to see a movie, doesn’t matter, but your friend should understand that her roommate crossed a line and that is reason enough for you to avoid placing yourself and your husband in an uncomfortable position.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not trying to change the subject, but has anyone else noticed that it still says jambee has only made one post when she’s posted twice in this thread alone? Her post count should be increasing. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

How are you not mad a your husband for tolerating this!!!!???

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

While she was “humping” him…did your husband just stand there? I’m confused.

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