(Closed) Newlywed regreting the marriage…thinking about divorce before. Help!

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

This is bad. Bad for you, bad for your son. Do you want him to grow up with this man as his role model? To see the disrespect? To never be able to trust his father? Staying together isn’t always best, and it is terrible in this case. 

Post # 3
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee

Do you really want your son to see a dysfunctional family model?? Where his father steals from his mother, is disrespectful, lazy, mooching, angry?? Who tries to trap you by threatening to make dating difficult for you and make you fear leaving because he’ll just be an ass about it? Do you REALLY want to live this way for the rest of your life??

Please tell me the answer to these questions is no. Your child should not be around this man as much as possible, and neither should you.

Post # 4
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4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

He’s stealing from your child.. Come on! That’s the shadiest shade I ever did hear..

You certainly should not have married this guy, but whats done is done.. And now its time to get out.. For both of your sake. Good luck!

Post # 5
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9729 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yeah, divorce. Just read your post back if you need any sort of explanation on that.

Post # 6
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He sounds like an absolute piece of shit. Returning to criminal activities and stealing from you *and your sons piggy bank* for christs sake. Your son deserves better. Divorce and never look back.

Post # 7
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9534 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You lost me when he was stealing massive amounts of money from you and now from the son’s piggy bank. Kudos to you for tryig to do everything you can for your child, you must be an excellent mother. Going with that, it is best to divorce. He is not being a great father figure and this can only damage your son rather than help as the years go on

Post # 8
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

It sucks when it doesn’t work out, but it’s better to find out now than waste even more time (I divorced my ex a little after a year, but the problems were there long before, and I never should have married him for one, and then I never should have waited as long as I did to divorce). 

Just hold your head high, divorce, and be done with it. 

Post # 9
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5070 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

This is just no good.  Time for a divorce.

Post # 10
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2925 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

And why did you marry him to begin with?

Post # 11
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46 posts
Newbee

I’m sorry but why in the hell did you Marry him? 

Post # 12
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Staying will only harm your son.  Divorce sucks all around.  But staying in a toxic environment with drugs, theft (and whatever else) long term is WAY worse than going through a divorce and providing a stable, loving, safe environment for your child.  

You cannot change this man….you can only change yourself and what you’re willing to accept.  He might intermittently introduce chaos into your son’s life because of his actions.  But I suppose intermittent drama is better than ongoing constant drama.

He’s responsible for his own actions. You’re responsible for your son’s well being. 

Keep you chin up.  Stay strong.  You can do this!!!!  

 

Post # 13
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1306 posts
Bumble bee

 

He steals from your son’s piggybank. And he steals from you.

You and your son deserve better.

Get a pitbull of a lawyer and get yourself out of this mess.

Post # 14
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196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Unmarried long-term relationships can be extremely deceiving. Whatever happens while you were dating is never a guarantee of what will come when you are married, and I am sorry that this is what you are going through. But I need to be honest – he doesn’t sound like someone I would have waited that long for. I doesnt sound like he will ever become a father figure. The fact that he is threatening your future lifestyle if you do get divorced sounds very abusive to me. I don’t have any advice but I hope you make the right decision for yourself and your child.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Take it from someone whom had a unemployed father whom stole from their quarter collection map and their mother’s purse/car/dresser, get out now. He did the late nights, substance abuse, and illegal activity bit too. My mother stuck with my father and I can tell you that it was not for the better for us.

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