Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
Grandparents? Most of the people my parents age are grandparents. Everytime my mama sees one of her classmates or friends they ask her how many grandkids she has. They make it seem like she is missing out. My mama says that she can wait. We haven’t been married for 2 months yet. My daddy says that he is ready.
I even have some of my older cousins telling my mama that our baby (I’m not pregnant yet) should be due around Nov. because we were snowed in. lol They keep saying that we were having baby making weather. lol Almost everytime my mama goes out, people are asking if I’m pregnant yet.
Are your parents dealing with this too?
Post # 3
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My mom would bug me about having a baby before I was even married. My brother has been married for a while so I would tell her to talk to him. My Mother-In-Law is too nice to put that kind of pressure on us. Now that I am pregnant, they’re both crazy excited.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I think my parents will be cool, because my sister already has provided them with 4 grandkids. I don’t know about Future Mother-In-Law, though – methinks I detect a glimmer of baby fever in her eye.
Post # 5
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@artbee: I am sure that even though our moms say that they can wait for grandkids (Hubby’s parents have 6), they will be over the moon when I get pregnant.
@Beluga: lol My daddy has baby fever.
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
My parents are not feeling the pressure at all. My parents are still “young” (54) so they dont need to have grandchildren any time soon. DHs parents were bugging us for a while but then my SIL had a baby so the pressure will be off for a while!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I don’t think my parents are yet. My mom’s really good friend has 3 grandkids so if they want to do a kid outing like the zoo then my mom will borrow kids from the children pastor. Win-win all around.
At some point she would like her own but she wants to retire and be the babysitter but she’s not able to retire yet so I think she hopes my sister and I wait just a little bit longer. But hubby and I won’t start trying for at least 2-3 more years.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
Oh god. Yes. At the wedding, my mom and aunt mentioned babies 2 or 3 times, and at the end of the night when I said we were unsure if we wanted kids, my dad informed me that I better have one or else he’ll “rip one out of me”… uhmm…
But again, we’re not even sure we want kids, and I don’t want to feel guilted into it in order to make my parents grandparents, because guess what? At the end of the day, the kids is ours and it will be our responsibility to take care of it, not the grandparents. And we’re just not sure if we want that responsibility!
Post # 9
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My parents are still “young” too. They are 49 and 50, and about 90% of their friends are grandparents. lol We were just talking the other day about how “young” my grandmother was when she became a grandmother (I think she was about 41 or 42 then).
Post # 10
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@rainbow: Hi date twin! You are so right! My mama was a Stay-At-Home Mom when we were little so they didn’t have to worry about childcare (which is super expensive). A few of our friends have babies and they tell us how expensive it is to buy diapers and formula. This is part of the reason why Hubby and I want to wait a few years. Of course, if it happened we would be happy. Until it happens we plan on waiting as long as we can.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I’m not even married yet but this is definitely already starting to come up.
Future Mother-In-Law gets her tea leaves read, and recently the reader told her that she would become a grandmother in the near future. She mentioned this to Fiance and I with a little smile on her face the next time we saw her. My response? “Oh, really? Who’d FI’s brother knock up?”
Future Father-In-Law laughed himself silly. Apparently he said the exact same thing to Future Mother-In-Law when she told him!
Post # 12
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@linguo42: lol That is so funny! What did she say?
Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
My parents are young (50) and they still have grandbaby fever! My mom can’t wait to be a grandma and I think she secretly wishes that DH and I weren’t planning to wait 3.5 to start TTC.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
Trugem – they are already hassling you??? That’s incredible!
We haven’t felt any pressure from either parents yet. They want us to just enjoy being married first.
However, our grandparents might start talking grandbabies soon. But honestly, it is none of their business – like Rainbow said the two people who are solely responsible for raising the children would be me and DH; not our parents and certainly not our grandparents.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
Oh yes…atleast my mom is ready. Thankfully, my sister got married 10 months after I did and got pregnant 3 months after that. So the pressure is off…for now…lol
Post # 16
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Busy bee
Oh hell yes! When we went on our honeymoon, my dad blurted out in front of everyone that he hopes that this was a grandbaby making honeymoon. UGHH!