Post # 1
DH and I just got married in March. A couple of months ago, he said newlyweds should spend their first Christmas just them whether they’re in their own house/apt/whatever. I kind of like that idea. We’ve been splitting holidays between our families the whole time we’ve been dating. So, what are you guys doing?
*Is it weird I’m already starting to think about how I want to decorate our apt and *First Christmas Tree Together!?!*
Post # 3
I so wish we could do this! Because of geography, this wouldn’t work for us though (unfortunately). DH’s parents are 4 hours away and we live in the same town as my family. We would end up at my parents for dinner every year then, which wouldn’t be fair.
This year will be my first Christmas away from home and I am dreading it already 🙁
Once we have kids of our own who know what is going on with Christmas, it will be in their own house! I can’t wait!
Post # 4
We always spend Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with my Mom and then go to his family’s that afternoon. I like the idea of spending time alone, so we usually do “our” Christmas on the 23rd or something before we go to my Moms.
Post # 5
We will be alternating Christmases between our families until we have children. It’s a nice idea to just have the two of you for Christmas, but I just can’t see saying to our families, “sorry, we won’t be seeing you on Christmas anymore”
It’s totally not weird that you are already thinking about decorating etc. your first Christmas together is exciting 🙂
Post # 6
I still plan on spending christmas with our families. Probably for a long time until we have a family of our own. Christmas has always been about getting together with the whole family, I would find just spending it with eachother very lonely.
Post # 7
We’re actually not big on Christmas (DH and I) so we always spend it with our families. Last year was no exception. My family is Christmas OBSCESSED so it’s more fun to be with them than just sitting at home alone.
Post # 8
My husband isn’t big on holidays. We did spend the first Christmas together though because we had just moved and couldn’t travel. But we haven’t decorated in the 3 years we have been married because I would have to do it all myself.
Post # 9
I seriously daydream all the time about having Christmas to ourselves in our home, in our beds. My parents live cross country and his live 4 hours away so we’re always traveling. It really took the fun out of being newlyweds on our first Christmas.
I just don’t think I’m as family oriented as DH is. I want every holiday to be my new family of just DH and I instead of our parents and siblings.
Post # 10
We always go to his mom’s house for Christmas Eve dinner (we don’t stay the night) then we have Christmas morning at our house and then we go to my parents house for dinner. This will be our first Christmas as a married couple but we will do the same thing. I like to see my siblings and my neices and nephew on Christmas 🙂
Post # 11
We both have divorced families, so we usually have 5-6 Christmases a year. It stinks because we are right in the middle of our families, they both live an hour or so away from us, but in opposite directions. I missed my family tradition one year to be with one of his families and it ended up really sucking for me(obviously I didn’t act this bratty in front of them), but after that year we just juggle everything. Last year we had one of the Christmases at our house, which was really nice for us since the kids got to stay at their house and not have to travel so much.
This year I am due on Christmas Eve so maybe we will catch a break:)
ETA: We do have one rule, that our kids wake up in their own bed on Christmas. We always stick with it and it is non-negotiable. Maybe starting some tradition just the two of you would be a good idea.
Post # 12
I have never been at home since meeting DH 🙂 He only has three times a year he can go home for more than a weekend (17 hour drive/or a flight) and Christmas is one of them. My family is 10 minutes from us, and it’s something I have never ever bothered him about as per how much he misses on a day to day basis, so we go to his family at Christmas no question.
My family has thankfully been very awesome and always does Christmas in January for us when we get back. We bring fresh lobster on the plane with us when we come back to thank them for us being away, they seem to like that, ha!
He has already said this one will likely be different (baby due in Oct) we’re not making any plans, will see how things go and plan when/if we’re ready.
Post # 13
Last year, we has Christmas at our place with a couple of family members over, and afterwards my fiance insisted that this year (our first one married) WILL be spent just the two of us 🙂 I am completely down with that idea!
Post # 14
My family has a big crazy Christmas. All the neighbours and family come over on Christmas Eve after Church to eat and drink unti the wee hours. On Christmas day, we sleep in, have a big brunch, open stockings and presents all afternoon and have family dinner.
DH’s family Christmas is just immediate family and they open everything on Christmas eve and just kind of spend Christmas day sleeping and lounging. They don’t even all go to mass together (because DH’s dad is scared the house will get robbed if everyone is gone together?! Seriously?!)
I am scared it is going to be so quiet and lonely 🙁
Post # 15
I wish we would, but I don’t see Fiance going along with that. We’ve spent the last two years with his family, so I’m really set on going to my moms this year. Problem is that she lives in Norway and we live in Spain. But I know if we stayed here, we’d always be at his parents house.
Post # 16
We always open presents together alone Christmas morning. After that,we go to FI’s mom’s and then to my parent’s. This won’t change once we get married. It may change once we have kids though.