(Closed) Newlyweds… have you been questioned about babies yet?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Our first “what about babies?” question came the day after we got engaged, and hasn’t stopped since. I just say that we’re enjoying married life as a couple first.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep, multiple times.  I just reassure people that I just cannot have a child until I finish law school.

Post # 5
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582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just a couple times. I say “Before I’m 30.” Since that’s still 4 years off, they get the picture it won’t be anytime soon. But they also get the message that, yes, it’s in the long-term plan so they can stop worrying that we never will. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m not getting married until March but I’ve already been asked multiple times when we’re going to have kids in the year and a half we’ve been engaged.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh my gosh yes!  It annoys me to no end.  I have all these snarky comments, but never seem to get the nerve up to use them.  I want to say, “We don’t talk about our sex life in public.” Someone here on weddingbee had a good one, “Well we just had sex this morning, so it’s too soon to tell.” If someone asks when we will start a family, I want to say, “We already did, we got married,” because FH and I are a family.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@guitargirl: Exactly!  Since when is a married couple not a family?!

Post # 9
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

our wedding is in 11 months and we get this question all the time. people have actually had the gall to say to me, “you know, you’ll be 30 before you know it.” (i’m 27 now)

thanks, i hadn’t realized!!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes.. one lady was quite rude tho.

Ill set the scene:

I was shopping along and I got stopped by one of the ladies of mum and dads church that they go too (over 700 members) and her face seemed familiar she said

Her: oh hey charis, how you going? I heard you were expecting??

me: expecting what?

her: a baby? I heard you were a couple of months along now..

Me: umm no actually… I recently got married but im not expecting..

her: oh.. i thought that was the reason you got married.

by this stage I wanted to ram my shopping trolley into her or at least reach out and slap her..

me regaining composure: Oh no, we had a 13 month engagement, no shot gun wedding here!!

had me ranting and raving tho when I got home.. boy was I furious.

For the record, hubs and I are not looking at starting a family.. at the moment it isnt even on the horizon and i cant see it being anytime in the next 6 or 7 years maybe if ever, so I think she will be waiting a long time!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I want to add sometimes I’m confused by why people ask me this right now because I got engaged at age 21 and I’m only 22 now.  Everyone I know has kids or is pregnant though but I still don’t think I’m old enough for everyone to be concerned with us not having kids right now.  My Future Brother-In-Law who just had a kid in July actually told me I’ll be a really old mother at 25-27…

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mostly the lady who does my nails….nobody else. But every 3 weeks when i get my nails done, she asks if I’m pregnant…kinda cracks me up 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

One of my very good friends asked me … during my wedding reception!  All I could think was: Let’s just get through THIS first!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We aren’t married yet but we are already getting the question constantly.  It really hasn’t bothered me yet because we plan to get married and just see what happens.  I can see what you mean though, it’s no one’s business that we are gonna start banging the day after the wedding to start having kids.  That’s creepy to me!  I usually just respond with something like whatever happens happens and we will go from there.  

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I used to get it a lot, but not as much any more, just a little here and there. Today my employer’s sister-in-law told me I need to have a baby because she need someone to give her baby stuff away to lol Any apparently one of my aunts thinks I’m pregnant because she had a dream about it or something (but I’m definitely not).

Post # 16
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18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had people asking on our wedding day!  Thankfully, my dad isn’t dropping hints but I can tell my stepmom wants a step baby!

Plus I’ve had people at work and school asking me a lot recently.

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