Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I just wanted to see if what I’m feeling is normal. We got married a little over a month ago, and since we’ve come home from our honeymoon, I have felt exhausted (basically, every minute I’m not a work, I want to be in my bed.) I have been trying to search for a logical reason for why I am feeling like this. Planning a wedding is hard, and I did everything for 10 months. I didn’t have a planner, and (for the most part) I did not have a lot of help. But, I think that is the case for most brides. Could it be that I built up so much stress that I really need to just sleep for a month? How can I break myself of this pattern? Did/do any other new brides feel like this?
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
Could you be pregnant? I felt like that when I was pregnant and didn’t know.
It’s also possible that you’re just super drained after all the buildup of the wedding and honeymoon!
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
Honestly, no, I did not feel that way. The first week back from the honeymoon it was hard to adjust back to “real-life”/work schedule again, but that was it.
Are you sure you are not sick? Like mono or something?
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
@sbottiani: You’re probably just drained from everything. If you were handcore planning and going a mile a minute with a goal in mind and then the goal is suddenly gone, you have no reason to go a mile a minute anymore. I always felt like this after term finished in university. I was tired all the time, but I pushed through to finish those last papers and study for those last exams. Stress takes a toll on the body!
It’s also winter. I think most people slow down. I am pretty sure I have some degree of SAD.. I too feel very tired. Make sure you’re getting enough vitamin D.
Hopefully Xmas will wake/cheer you up!
Try some exercise. I am sure it’s the last thing you feel like doing now, but it does give you energy.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
Maybe I wasn’t normal either, but I was EXHAUSTED and wanted to get as much sleep possible after the wedding and honeymoon. I was happy and generally in a great mood, but I felt like I needed to catch up on all the lost sleep and generally decompress. I was this way for about 3 weeks, and then I finally felt normal again. If you feel good otherwise, I’d say let your body rest for a bit more without worrying about it 🙂
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
See your doctor. When I hear, “I’m tired all the time” the two things that I think of are anemia and depression or seasonal affective disorder. Both are treatable! Many women are anemic, and I’ve heard it’s fairly common for women to get a little bout of the blues after everything that you’ve been planning and looking forward to is done.
Please go talk to your doctor and get your blood tested to rule out anemia or infection. Be honest with her about how you are feeling because there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling down or wanting help. You will feel better!
ETA: If you are not anemic, try exercise! I know it seems contrary but I often find that making myself get out and do something gives me more energy when I’m tired. Even just going for a walk is great.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
I can confidently say that I am not pregnant, for starters. It makes sense that I would be tired after my wedding. It was a lot of work, and, like I said, I was constantly stressed out. I don’t yearn for the days of planning my wedding again; I was a stress case. I really think I am just tired. For awhile, I was coasting during this exhaustion…actually enjoying doing NOTHING. But now, I guess I feel like I need to get out of this funk and enjoy being married. I just don’t want to get into a cycle of laziness.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Might be good to check with a doctor. That’s how I felt when I had mono
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
I used to be tried all the time too and my doctor diagnosed me with low thyroid (or hashimotos). I now take a hormone replacement and have a lot more energy! Just go talk to a doctor, they can help!!
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
Sounds like you might have a mild illness or vitamin or mineral deficiency. I’d suggest a full checkup at the doctor’s.
Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
I didn’t feel like that for more than a day or so after the wedding. I was exhausted initially but after a good night’s rest (or five) I felt envigorated (and thrilled wedding planning was behind me). I echo what the advice you’ve received – go get a full blood work up. It could also be emotionally related… so something to think about it, if the blood work comes back inconclusive.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
OP, I’m with you on this. It takes every ounce of energy to get up in the morning, and I feel kind of zombie like during the day.
However, I am unbelievably happy (so I’m sure it’s not depression), and just attribute it to 1. winter months 2. being busy now that it’s Christmas time and we travel a lot on the weekends, 3. Stress finishing up thank you’s, Christmas cards, getting our house back in order, putting away gifts.
Any of that sound true for you as well? Make sure you’re eating healthy and exercising at least a little bit—I swear that helps!
Post # 14
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Worker bee
I feel like that when I’m not eating enough veggies or drinking enough water. Winter makes me want carbs and hot drinks, so I’m dealing with a lot of diet-related fatigue now too.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
@sbottiani: I got married the day after you – and we were away overseas for 5 weeks. I am feeling just like you – I am dragging myself out of bed and have the neither the energy or motivation to do anything!
We had the most amazing wedding & honeymoon and have come back to beautiful sunny weather here in Oz, so it’s not gloomy weather taking its toll…
How to get the mojo back is the question….? 🙂
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
I agree with a lot of bees on here. See your doctor. Get some blood work done. Hopefully you didn’t pick up a virus from the food you ate on your honeymoon.
