(Closed) Newlyweds – Ok to spend your first christmas alone?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No matter what you do, someone will always be upset. You can’t please everyone all of the time. I don’t think there’s anything wrong w/ going off on your own and starting your own traditions. I say go for it!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

You can only make yourselves happy, everyone else will have some issue or another with whatever you decide.

We had Christmas alone this year and loved it!  We spent Thanksgiving with my family (and met up again the week before Christmas for shopping), usually we would spend Christmas with my husband’s family and alternate years, but due to new nephews born this year we are all meeting up in February instead and we are all happy with the decision. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We alternate Christmases since my family is so far away. Honestly, I think it would be fun to go away for Christmas just the two of us! I say go for it! This year we did our own thing Christmas Eve and Christmas morning and then saw his family on Christmas day.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I agree and say go for it! There’s nothing wrong with spending xmas just you and your hubby – you can’t please everyone! So if that’s what you two want, then do it. I wouldn’t suggest doing it every year, but I think once in awhile is definitely needed! Besides, there are PLENTY of other holidays to share with family!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

We stayed put and didn’t travel for Thanksgiving this year.  I think it’s important to spend time alone together on the holidays so that you can start your own family traditions.  You’re right, being with family can be stressful, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t enjoy a holiday together.  Family might be upset, but you’re two grown adults and need to make decisions that are good for your new family.  I personally think it’s a good boundary to set so that expectations don’t get out of control.  Whatever you decide, have fun!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with those above me. Do what you BOTH want to do and make that decision now together. That way when the holidays come up you are both prepared with answers for all of your relatives involved.

Just know that you can’t please everyone especially if you both have family in the area. There are only so many places you can make it to at the holidays. I know it was hard for my mom the first year I wasn’t there on Christmas, but now we are starting new traditions. If you think the run around to different houses is bad now, think about when you have kids. Traveling all around with them in tow….No thank you. One place at a time for me.

Set the boudaries now. Talk with your Fiance about what would work best for the both of you. make sure you are both happy with whatever decision you make.

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