(Closed) Newlyweds: Post your “I Do-Over” for the Brides to Bee

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2008

1.  I had 2 maids of honor and 1 matron of honor.  Given the opportunity to do it again- I wouldn’t have picked any of them to be in such a high position.  I would have had 1 person standing by my side, which was the only person that really helped me throughout my wedding planning.  And she was a DIY goddess, at that.

2.  I had 110 guests who RSVP-ed and it was overwhelming.  I realized that there were actually a lot people who were there that I didn’t particularly care for who spent my reception being a tad snarky.  I would have a do-over by making my wedding a much more intimate affair with 40-50 guests, which means it would have only been family.  lol

3.  I would have a small restaurant reception in Hawaii instead of at a banquet room at the Moana Surfrider.  I’d still have the ceremony there, but not the reception.  It was just too overwhelming and the food was horrible.

At least I know what to do for our 10 year wedding anniversary, now.  lol!

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Doctor Girl: I probably would have done more than snap! =D We’re planning on locking down my fiance’s computer so that no one can change anything, even if his brother (DJ) and a sign don’t manage to keep them away.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Great thread, everyone! =)

Post # 35
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Make sure your parents are ready extra early.

I gave mine a freakin’ PRINT OUT on when we were leaving the house. Apparently to my dad, this meant “take a shower and put on tux” because we were THIRTY MINUTES LATE to my own damn wedding. WTH. He said it was my mom and I’s fault b/c we didn’t tell him when to shower. Ummmmmmmmmm.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

– I fully intended on having a friend or family member tape our wedding.  I delegated the task of finding someone and thought it was taken care of…but it wasn’t.  Wish we had a video!

– Would have been more generous with some close friends bringing guests.  If they had asked, I would have said yes, but I didn’t even think about approaching it with some people because we didn’t have much extra room (i.e. next to none).

– gone somewhere more secluded for our honeymoon.  loved it, but that’s the truth!

Overeall, it was wonderful and we had a great time…and our guests seemed to really enjoy themselves, too.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I wish I’d done a video or at least asked a family member to spend 15-20 minutes shooting some video for us to watch. It’s been 4 weeks since our wedding and I am dying to see more pictures, etc.

I also wish I had personally asked two more people (family members) to help set-up the day before and the morning of. As it was, we finished what we needed to but not without my Maid/Matron of Honor, brother-in-law, and Boyfriend or Best Friend stressing out (I was fine, relatively).

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have very few major regrets, thank goodness, but here are my thoughts in hindsight:

I wish we had been more organized about formal family shots.  I had a list, but I should have distributed it to the family members it involved a day or two in advance… as it was, everyone scattered during cocktail hour, and we missed out on some shots.

I wish I had spent LESS time eating (husband insisted we enjoy our meals and take our time) because we could have had conversation with more guests before the dancing began.

I wish we had requested that a tray of hors d’oeuvres be set aside for us to eat after we took our pictures – someone brought them to me in the bridal suite before the ceremony, and they were amazing, but my husband missed out entirely.

I wish I had gotten everything done WAY in advance because I spent the last few days STRESSING

I wish I had actually made an effort to get in shape because I had an AMAZING photographer, but even good photography can’t hide the fact that I have back fat 🙂

Now here’s what I am SO GLAD we did-

Spent the extra money on a DJ, videographer, limo, good photographer. We were in great hands and the day went very smoothly.  Paid for all my maids to stay overnight in the same hotel so they could all get ready together.  Did the ceremony our way.  My Jewish family nearly fell out of their chairs when my SIL read from Ephesians, but that’s what we want for our marriage!!  So glad we did not leave for our honeymoon til the next day – we had time to relax, open gifts, say goodbye to family, and not be stressed.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mrs.Kura: I agree with your suggestion regarding having one special person, that’s what I’m doing! My sister will be the only one standing- I chose her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.

 

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

oh one more thing– bring a backup pair of shoes!  i randomly bought some blinged out flip flops in my colors off etsy as a joke… and then after my ceremony got a killer blister from my fancy shoes and had no choice but to switch!

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, my Darling Husband and I loved our wedding, however, there was some drama as I pointed out in a previous posting trying to move on. Really, heart felt looking back on it now, I (we) probably would have done what we really wanted to do in the beginning instead of compromising for our families and eloped to the courthouse or eloped where we were married at, ALONE. We really wanted to do the courthouse and then a big dinner party out and then hitting the night scene to all our favorite hot spots but some family was not too keen on the idea. They thought that we would look back and regret it.

My only other word of advice other than do what you want, is that if you are doing an Out of Town wedding or someplace where everyone has to travel to, do not allow anyone, especially family that is involved in the process, to arrive the day off. My dear inlaws had to due to thier business, but they got lost and ended being really, really late. We were 15 minutes away from leaving and had to almost leave with out them and it caused alot of undue stress.

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

1.  We were late getting to the venue so we didn’t have time to take pictures before hand, so our group shots were very rushed during cocktail hours, I would have left more time for pictures before.

 

2.  I would have hired a DOC, it would have left everyone with so much more free time the day of.

 

3.  Given the DJ more instructions the day of.  We submitted online instructions, which he apparently didn’t read and messed up the music some, which upset me a bit. 

4. Also our guitarist for the ceremony quit 2 weeks before so we found someone on craigslist, BAD IDEA.  He was horrible.  Luckily I barely heard him and only found out after the whole thing was over that he was horrible. 

 

Beyond that it was wonderful. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My husband and I got married a little over a week ago and we only had minor things happen.

First, it rained the morning of the wedding..but cleared off and became sunny for our 2 O’Clock wedding.

Second, I would’ve left the hair salon a few hours earlier! I got to the church to get ready and the photg was there waiting on me. I felt so horrible about that.

Third, I would’ve rememberd my husbands black socks that we bought the day before! Someone came to me beforehand and asked “where’s Jeff’s socks?” My mouth gaped open! Another detail here! I would’ve bought a petty coat when I bought my dress! Although, I was able to RENT one! But it was such a pain to get used to!

Fouth and finally! Made my husband buy his dress shirt a week or so ahead of time! The top button wouldn’t button so his tie looked a little funny from far away, but up close, it was all good!

The things I am proud of though: My dad walked me down to my husband! My MOM did ALL of my planning and came up with such great ideas! She helped me decorate too! I’m glad I didn’t have anyone but my husband there with me when I picked out my dress. It was a total surprise to everyone! My mom had seen it a few months b4 the wedding and she fell in love with it! I’m glad I sat down and looked at the wedding cake books. I got just what I wanted (even though I had no idea what I wanted!) I’m glad I went with a photg I knew and could trust! I’m glad my sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor (without bridesmaids) and that she joined us at our head table after the cake was cut! But most of all, I’m thankful I married the man I did and that our day was what WE wanted it to be!

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Wonderful info newly weds. Thanks. I know my family will pose a problem making demands for what they think is appropriate but I think if I can remember that it is about us and what WE want – that way the important things should not be forgotten. 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I wish I had gotten a different wedding dress.  My dress was gorgeous, but I wish I had gotten something simpler and more tasteful. 

I wish we had invited less people.  Like, 25 people.  And taken them to a restaurant.  Something classy.

I wish I had had a better photographer.  A different officiant.  And I wish I had had a smaller wedding party. 

But eh, we are just as married!

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