Post # 32
Criticizing someone’s weight DOES
cause issues. I was personally one of them.
When I was dating my ex, I was constantly told that I needed to go to the gym, I needed to watch what I ate, I needed to work on making my stomach flatter. I was in no way overweight. I weighed 115 pounds. After months and months of hearing that I was fat, I really started to believe it. So, I stopped eating and dropped to 98 pounds and he was still telling me I was fat and needed to lose weight. It was then that I realized I deserved better then him BUT I am still so critical about my weight and I still have a lot of anorexic tendencies even though my SO now tells me I’m beautiful no matter what. This IS an issue.
Being bullied doesn’t just hurt a person’s feelings. It can cause deep seeded issues with self worth.
Although I agree that physical abuse is a lot worse but bullying is still a problem that parents should be addressing with their children and showing them via their own actions how to treat other people.
Post # 33
I can say that while I had terrible eating habits as an obese adult, but when I was a obese child growing up, I ate well balanced meals made by my mother from whole foods. We went out to eat once in a blue moon. I have genetic propensity toward fluffiness that transcends a McDonald’s habit. I have to work extra hard now with diet and exercise to be a healthy weight, and I’m STILL overweight by BMI standards. It makes me angry when people who’ve never had issues with their weight throw blame around. I think that it’s absolutely okay for an obese person to decide that they are happy with themselves the way that they are and they don’t want to diet. Dieting is hard on a person’s emotional health. I traded an undesirable body for an undesireable mind, honestly. I have an unhealthy relationship with food now that I never had when I was obese.
This anchor is not so overweight that she’s bankrupting the health insurance industry. Get real.
Post # 34
Some of the posts in this thread made me sad.
Anyways, GOOD for her! So glad she stood up & spoke up when so many don’t/wont! She is inspiring & for so many reasons it gave me chills to watch!
Post # 35
The funny thing is that I don’t think this douchebag who wrote to her actually thought he was being cruel. That sanctimonious prick probably thought he was speaking some kind of “hard truth” as a “responsible” citizen. (Note, I don’t agree with that at all, just thinking what this person might have thought by the tone of his mail.) I’m baffled that some people can be SO misinformed and then have the audacity to go around thinking it’s their right to go around and tell people how to act. As if she CHOSE to be obese!! Good for her on speaking out.
Post # 36
I think this struck a cord with me, because I feel overweight women are the targets more often than not, and it is often overweight women who are shamed into not standing up for their own dignity. So good for her and I hope other girls take notice.
Post # 37
“but if someone battles with weight their whole life and they hear… you’re so fat and worthless once from every person they know…. it is going to make a HUGE impact. Think about how it will effect that person for the REST of their life! I know people who are a size 6 and still think they are fat because their whole life people were making single comments about how they should lose weight.“
I’m that person. I wake up every morning convinced I’ve gained back all the weight overnight. I fight my eating disorder with every bite I take — and don’t take — and every glance in the mirror. I still see myself the way I was, and, objectively, I was never even that big to begin with.
I love how this woman handled the situation, and I love that her husband was so angry about it that he took it to the public first. She’s a great role model, especially for her little girls.
Post # 38
I’m sure you’re reflecting your own experience, but please believe that there are many people who *do* commit suicide, develop eating disorders, etc because of bullying and verbal abuse. You are miseducated or in denial if you continue to insist otherwise. “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is an old adage from the 1800s — hardly advice from modern psychological experts, most of whom would argue that the statement is untrue. It’s great if you found it worked for you, but that doesn’t mean most people would find value in it.
You’d benefit from educating yourself about these issues, and others would benefit from not hearing the mistruths that you’re spreading.
Post # 39
I certainly think obesity is important issue but I would NEVER fat-shame anyone.
Verbal abuse/bullying can be just as traumatic as physical abuse/bullying. Some people deal with abuse differently than others, some might be “ok” while the same bullying to someone else might lead to cutting, eating disorders, major depression, etc.
Post # 40
Good for her, standing up to a bully! Some people are just straight up rude and need to think before they speak..or in his case type.
Post # 41
I’m not talking about all those fad diets, a Diet does not work,period, the reason is simply that you can’t just eat a certain way until you lose weight then turn around and go right back to poor habits. I’m talking about someone who sits on their butt all day not even trying to do anything remotely active, ever, eating at fast food restaurants all the time then complaining that they’ve tried everything to slim down, clearly they haven’t.
One of the biggest reasons obesity is such a problem is plain and simple many people overeat. Most restaurants provide us with a plate of food that would be a minmum of 2 servings of everything on the plate, we see that and assume thats the size of portions we should be eating.
A person that sits at a desk all day then goes home and sits on the couch until bedtime, doesn’t need as much food to maintain their activity level as someone that works a fast-paced on their feet job and then goes and works out afterwards.
I’m also not talkig about anyone that is aware they are overweight and doesn’t care or complain about it. There are many people out there that are perfectly content with their size and themselves and don’t feel the need to try to become what society deems as the right body size.
All i’m saying is anyone that complains about anything about themselves should just put in the effort to do something about it, otherwise don’t whine.
Post # 42
Well this got annoying really quickly.
Post # 43
My sister is a size 0, 5’2″ and a whole 95Lbs and always saying she’s fat, it’s really unhealthy how little she eats and how crazy she is about her workouts. It’s very unfortunate that so many women are affected by society and bullying as children those self-images never fully go away.
Post # 44
I was really impressed with her on-air response. Clearly a very self-assured, confident and impressive woman. It is no wonder she is an emmy-winning news anchor.
However, on a personal level I honestly do not find anything wrong with the letter that the man sent her and do not understand why it is considered bullying. He was providing a recommendation to a public figure based on his concern for his community. At no point was he disparaging her for the sake of it (such as ‘omg you’re so gross and fat’ which would have been COMPLETELY inappropriate).
Post # 46
If only there was a cure for ignorance. I think the video and story are great. In a world where so many young people turn to self harm or suicide, I respect the hell out of anyone who is willing to put the spotlight on this.