(Closed) NFP…how often

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Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m a “bad Catholic” because we went to the required NFP course, however I am on the pill and we actually use condoms too.  Actually I have a severe medical condition and I am on some intense medications for which I medically should NOT get pregnant right now so my doctor said two forms of birth control.  So there you go.

My parents used NFP and they only had two of us, so it can work.  I have no interest in how active their sex life is/was so I’ve never asked, but I do know that my mom was pretty religious about taking her temperatures and doing all of her charting so that factored in.  As long as you are systematic with it, it definitely can work for you.

I think you asked how often we have sex…we waited until our wedding, but for my husband and I, we usually have sex 3-4 times per week, depending on how busy we are.  We started off our marriage in August basically doing it as often as we could, but then again it was the carefree summer and we had our honeymoon to just relax and have sex!  Haha.

Post # 19
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Honey bee

missfreezy:  

Ime, NFPers trying to avoid pregnancy are still quite cautious during statistically safe weeks. NFPers who are TTC would still space out their couplings to allow for rest and increased sperm counts. And the first group would still need to be prepared to parent no matter how successfully they can track because it could still happen.

 

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper

missfreezy:  I am the opposite because we are ttc, but I don’t temp at all. I have noticed in hindsight that when I count back from when I get my period the week we ended up naturally being the most “active” was supposedly when I ovulated! Just a thought to keep in mind that while your brain is saying “no babies” the rest of you might try to steer you in the opposite direction! 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We are going to be going to NFP sessions and plan on using this method too. We plan on trying for kids right away so it’ll be interesting to see how this works. I was told by my dr that I should not have any issues as I am one of 5 kids, including twins, my sister also had no problems.

So have you heard of Creighton method? It’s a type of NFP as I understand and our diocese offers this as well as sympto thermal. We’ve looked it up, talked to a person at diocese and our priest and are still kind of confused. But apparently Creighton method of NFP seems to be the way to go…

So since we’ll be going to NFP sessions and learning…we doing the temp taking/tracking now in prep for the wedding? 

Interestingly enough, Orthodox Jews actually only have a 2 week period to have sex all of the time – no sex on cycle and then they have to go to a micvah (sp?) to be cleansed after their period. Their husbands cannot even touch or sleep in same bed as them when they have their perioids (I have friends..that’s how I know this). They have lots of kids!

SIDE NOTE: What happens if you’re going to have your period the day of your wedding? I was looking at a menstrual cycle/event date website and you put in some info and it tells you if you’ll be on period on your event(i.e. wedding)date. So far, I will not…

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

not catholic. i practice the FAm (fertility awareness method). you check your cervical fluid in addition to counting your days. with this method, i definitely have less sex. but with crazy schedules, i don’t think once a week or every two weeks is bad. it works for me and my hubs. so it’s all good. 🙂 

Post # 23
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Helper bee

We used NFP and condoms for years. We recently had a pregnancy scare and gave up trying to be ‘good’ so I’m on ABC. The stress of constantly worrying we might get pregnant again was hurting our intimate interactions. Nope, couldn’t do it anymore. It is part of what has driven us from the church.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

missfreezy:  Answers to this are going to vary a LOT, depending on which NFP method is being used, how regular your cycles are, how long a couple has been charting (aka, how much data you have from the past), individual preferences, business trips, luteal phase length, whether you’re comfortable with sex during menstruation, etc., etc. 

We’ve been using the CCLI method (sympto-thermal) for years (both to avoid pregnancy and to achieve pregnancy… currently TTC #2), and I can tell you my experience, but it’s probably not going to be exactly the same as yours, or anyone else’s! I have very irregular cycles (vary from 27-50 days), and sometimes they’re annovulatory or I have multiple periods of “fertile signs” before actually ovulating, so NFP is theoretically more challenging for us than many couples. Prior to my first pregnancy, I also had a LPD (luteal phase defect… aka the time between ovulation and your period is too short), so that complicated things even further.

In the beginning, we abstained completely between my period and when we were sure I had already ovulated (that’s what we were most comfortable with, since we were really not prepared for a pregnancy and were still figuring out charting, plus I was dealing with some medicaly issues that really needed to get under control before I could have a baby, etc.). So basically we had less than two weeks per cycle (closer to just one week when I was dealing with the LPD) that were “safe.” During that time though, we were never worried about being cautious or whatever, because the method makes it pretty clear that you’re no longer fertile.

Later on (after 6-12 cycles… can’t remember how many), we were more knowledgeable about my cycle, so we began to have some “safe” days in between my period ending and my fertile period as well. It could be anywhere from just 1-2 days to a week or more, depending on mucus observations, etc. So that ended up often being a total of 2 weeks or more of “safe” days during each cycle, excluding period days (we never actually had sex on every one of those days though… that would be exhausting!). Also, as time went on we became less and less strict with ourselves because we were more and more comfortable with the idea of having a baby. We never actually conceived until we were actively trying to though.

NFP during the post-partum/breastfeeding period is totally crazy, and there would’ve been a LOT of abstaining had we been actively avoiding a second pregnancy. But you can cross that bridge when you come to it. 🙂

Feel free to PM me if you have further questions or anything! NFP’s a tricky thing to get the hang of, but it does work (and you do get to have sex. haha). 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Not trying to stir the pot here, but I’m curious. What are these “NFP classes” all about? My mind immediately jumps to my old 5th grade reproductive days.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

missfreezy:  Great job in thinking ahead.  My husband and I are Catholics as well, practicing NFP.  Funny thing, the first time that I tried tracking my cycle, I ended up getting pregnant.  Married in October, started tracking on 1/11/15 and haven’t had a period since lol – LO came in October 2015.  PM me if you need any other support or advice.  Congrats on your upcoming wedding!  

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

 

mrsfiddlesticks:  It’s just education on the whole natural family planning method. They teach you how to observe your fertile and infertile symptoms. When to abstain from sex if you aren’t looking to become pregnant.

NFP is great. Your not manipulating your body with drugs and it is completely natural. It promotes openness to human life if it is indeed is to occur. And if you don’t want to be pregnant you don’t have sex. You’re not hindering anything. 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

flowerkat:  Interesting and good to know. I’m a NFP person, but not Catholic.

My mind went to when we had to shout penis and vagina until we stopped laughing as 10 year olds. Clearly, I’ve had enough coffee today 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

missfreezy:  

Darling Husband and I have been married for about 4 months, and we use the Symtp-Thermal Method of NFP exclusively. We have sex as often as we want once we hit the safe window – which is fairly short, since we are trying to avoid pregnancy for right now. I’d say we end up having about 7 days that are open and I’m not on my period (if you include those then 14 days). Usually have about 6 days before period starts, and one day after.

It is a bit hard to trust it at first, I’ve had two months where I’ve really wondered if I was pregnant. But we trust that whenever it does happen, whether we are trying to conceive or not, that is when God wants us to have a baby. We pray about it whenever we pray together – that God send us a baby when the time is right, and that even though we want a little more time right now, we will be happy whenever it does happen for us.

We absolutely love kids and are pretty baby crazy, but we just bought a house and paid off a chunk of my student loans, so we’re hoping to save up a bit and spend some more time married before a baby comes into the picture.  Hoping to start TTC in September, around our 1 year wedding anniversary.

If you need somewhere to talk about this more, I HIGHLY recommend the NFP (and specifically Catholic NFP) groups on Facebook. It’s so nice to talk with other women who are doing the same thing, and understand that using artificial birth control does not line up with your beliefs.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We started/finished our final NFP and because of NFP charting all the info and temps, we actually have discovered a problem/issue so I’m seeing my dr.

1)My luteal phase is short/non existent (supposed to be 12 days…mine is 0 days) which means I’m most likely not ovulating and/or if I was, I would not be able to maintain/carry a baby

2) for the past 5 cycles I have had a light brown/tan spotting for 3-5 days prior to my period (haven’t been on birth control in 6 years)

Fortunately there is an ob/gyn practice in my city w/ a couple of drs that specialize in NFP. In fact, one dr is only 1 of 9 in the world w/ some specializatuions related to NaPro Technology and had a fellowship at Pope Paul VI Institute for the Study of Human Reproduction.

Based on insight from our teaching couple and online it is probably low progesterone,  which is not unusual and very treatable. 

If not for NFP, I wouldn’t have discovered this. Our teaching couple actually had same issue. Now, it’s just getting into to see this dr!

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