(Closed) NICE but SMALL weddings…

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had a small-ish wedding (45 pp) and it was wonderful!!!    None of the chaos and craziness of a huge wedding, and myself and our guests had a great time!  


I was originally going to have a very small wedding (20pp) in the Carribean, get a rental house for everyone, and have the reception at a nice restaurant.  We had to nix the idea based on cost for everyone to get out there, but I still think it is totally doable and really quite a nice idea!   Small intimate EXCLUSIVE weddings are all the rage. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had 24 guests. Ceremony in my IL’s gorgeous backyard around sunset followed by a catered dinner  at one long, beautifully decorated table under the stars with overhead party lights and tiki torches. An guitarist played for several hours, I wore a lovely wedding gown,  had flowers Brother-In-Law took the photos. Very low key, all DIY except for the dinner. The next night my IL’s threw a cocktail party for 120 guests, mostly friends, in the samE backyard.  Wine, kegs of craft beer, margaritas, same caterer made piles of appetizers, chartered bus to ferry partiers, live band.  But….no wedding trappings at the party (no cake, gown, garter/bouquet toss…..). The invitation was really cute and was for the partY only.  An matching insert for the wedding ceremony was added to the few people who were invited to both events. 

Post # 19
1633 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I did! I couldn’t justify spending $50-60,000 on a larger wedding for people I had never met before or who I was sort of in touch with. My mom was dictating too much because she was paying fir half that the wedding wasn’t feeling like me anymore.

I compromised with my husband and instead of eloping we had a very small wedding. Just 12 guests. He really wanted his mom to be there on his wedding day.

Anyway, my dress came from Nordstrom. I went with a beach wedding company that supplied flowers, cake, and photography plus a live guitarist. My husband plays amateur guitar so the live music was important to him. Our vows were the best. I was able to dictate exactly what we said to each other by adding in and remobing stuff from some preset vow ideas the wedding company had. 

For dinner we had a pre set menu at a really nice restaurant. Because we were a small party we were a b le to eat in a more private area in the main dining area instead of the true private dining room which had awful chairs and no view. The food was great, our cake was amazing. The only thing we didn’t have was dancing. For a party that small it wasn’t a bug deal.

We did not have my dream wedding, but the day was quite lovely. The larger wedding I had been planning was not my dream either. Just sometimes you realize your groom is a person and his needs/ wants/ guest list have to be respected. Your dream must die. Lol

Post # 20
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Merinda1994:  we’re doing that! We’re having a destination wedding in Tulum, Mexico and will habe about 15 people there. I’ve planned the wedding and reception in less than 1 month and its costing us about )$3,500. I’m so, so excited!! Good luck with your planning!

Post # 21
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We’re having a nice wedding with 27 guests. We’re going to Telluride, Colorado. Most people will be there Thurs-Sun, and we’re all skiing Friday, then we’re hosting everyone at a nice restaurant Friday night, then having the wedding at a nice venue Saturday. We leave in 3.5 weeks, and I’m so excited!

Post # 22
2998 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My wedding is a destination wedding and we are having 22 guests, I’m expecting it to be fabulous ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Merinda1994:  Small is the way to go!  It’s nice because if you want to make it beautiful you won’t have to compromise on anything.  A bride with 12 guests can pull out ALL of the stops much more comfortably than the bride with 250 guests.

Our goal was a 45 person wedding.  It turned into 60.  So small but not intimate like yours.

Originally we were going to do a 25K wedding for 20 people here in Manhattan but we’re both from Michigan and for that same 25K we could do 60 people in our homestate.  So it was a no brainer.

I still suggest you plonk down the money on a great photographer and florist.  I can be beautiful!

Post # 26
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think your wedding sounds lovely. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Merinda1994:  We did! 25 people! The only thing is that we went to a restaurant ($100 per plate) and didnt have dancing. We did, however, have a first dance/father daughter. We did it right after our ceremony. Our venue had an indoor “grand hall” that they let us use for the dances for ~20 minutes with no cost. ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 28
3208 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Merinda1994:  We’re having a 25-30 person affair. I’m just starting to interview wedding planners so we’re in the very early stages. I know this is superficial, but I do want a beautiful magazine-worthy wedding and I think that would also be possible for us with a small guestlist.

Post # 29
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m a UK bee, and we’re flying out to New York to get married. I’ve asked my two best friends to come along, and he’s asked his two best friends to come. So it’s just us six, a cute bouquet, a wonderful officiant, a talented photographer and a pair of rings. And I can’t wait!!!



Hold your ground, your wedding will be awesome!

Post # 30
210 posts
Helper bee

This is exactly what we are doing. I have a huge immediate family so our guest list is more like 40-50.  But we dont care about the dancing… we just care about beautiful pictures, amazing food, close friends and family and a wonderful honeymoon. We are getting this all with our small intimate wedding.

Post # 31
4435 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Merinda1994:  We had a 12 guest family-only Maui DW- it was perfect! We could get all the deluxe elements we wanted, which would have cost a fortune with a huge guest list. Maui wasn’t cheap, but it was a perfect celebration for us!

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