Post # 1
Alright, trying to plan out Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.
Here’s the deal.
- On the beach/reception at a horse ranch
- In Hawaii, where I live, and where none of the people in the bridal party live. And thus, they’re traveling thousands of miles to be in the wedding for me.
Because it would be a big sacrifice to come out, I already mailed them little “Will You Be My Bridesmaid?” packages with small gifts (that added up to probably about $20 a package) plus made custom cards designed with their names on it to make them feel special.
I’m definitely still planning on giving them Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts at the rehearsal dinner. I’ve got a few ideas.
After searching through various jewelry items and things like that, it started becoming clear to me that not all 5 of them have the same taste in that sort of thing. So I tried to think of something anyone would want to have, and came up with these slippers:
They would go with the coral dresses they’re wearing at the wedding, too, so they’d be welcome to wear them then. (Although I wouldn’t force it. I kinda feel like giving a gift as part of the required Bridesmaid or Best Man uniform isn’t really much of a gift.)
I can’t think of any one of the girls that wouldn’t like them. They’re $30 from Zappos. But is that just a little too cheap/casual for a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift for BMs who have paid a lot of money to come out to your wedding? I could probably throw in a little something extra, like maybe a sugar scrub to go with like a pedicure theme or something. Or! Pay for their pedicures the day before the wedding?!
The other ideas I liked were these:
Cute clutches made from repurposed coffee bags. $45.
Silver orchid flower “lei” necklace, $42.
Hip flask, $32. Would be filled with a tasty beverage, obviously.
Thoughts? What would you rather have?
Post # 3
Aw, crap. Throwing another wrench into this whole thing.
Just found these. Do you like them better than the all gold twisty ones? They’re a little dressier.
$40 Havaianas Slim Lace
Post # 4
I love that you’re trying to incorporate Hawaii in your gifts. I think the flip flops are a cute idea because it’s something they can wear during their time out there for your wedding. I like the first pair the best but I think you should pick which pair your give each girl based on their individual tastes. I also love the clutch. I lived in Hawaii for many years and the bag literally says Hawaii to me 🙂 if you got those it might be cute to put little things in there… A cute nail polish color or some travel goodies since there is travel involved for them.
Post # 5
@ms.christmas_deer: Thanks! Yeah I love that clutch… just wish they had ones that were specific to Oahu instead of Big Island, but I guess that’s where all the coffee is, so I can’t be too picky! They’re kinda spendy too, but at least it’s supporting a local artist, which is cool.
Post # 6
Anything that is a part of their uniform for the wedding, isn’t really much of a gift to them.
Id go with something personalized and that they would like outside of your wedding.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: That’s exactly how I feel, and why I said thye’d be “welcome” to wear them to the wedding, but I wouldn’t force it. You really don’t see a basic pari of cute gold flip flops to be something you’d wear after the wedding? I’m kinda confused/bummed as to the lack of support for the flops. 🙁 I guess I was expecting more people to comment that they thought it would be a great idea. Especially if it were paired with taking them out to a pedicure.
Post # 8
IMO, only if it’s a mandatory part of the wedding day uniform does it not count as a gift.
I like the gold flip flops. I wouldn’t buy myself $30 rubber flip flops (even though I know havaianas are good quality), but I’d be happy to receive them as a gift, especially if paired with a free pedicure.
Post # 9
@sailor: I’m totally on Team No-BM-Uniform-Gifts. I did clarify this in the post, haha.
“They would go with the coral dresses they’re wearing at the wedding, too, so they’d be welcome to wear them then. (Although I wouldn’t force it. I kinda feel like giving a gift as part of the required Bridesmaid or Best Man uniform isn’t really much of a gift.)”
Nothing is mandatory about what they’re gonna wear, they’re even doing their own Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, whatever they want in coral. Do you think they would feel obligated to wear the shoes even if I made it clear they didn’t have to?
Post # 10
@littlemissmango: Yeah, sorry If I wasn’t clear; I know you said they are welcome to wear the shoes at the wedding but are not required to. Because it’s not mandatory, it’s a good gift. As a Bridesmaid or Best Man I would not feel obligated to wear them at the wedding if you made it clear it was optional.