(Closed) Nice way to ask for Money

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Well I guess we are just rude then cause we didn’t register and decided that if people decide to buy us a toaster or waffle iron we will graciously accept it with a smile:) We too have owned our house and lived together for 4 years and have nice (new) things so we don’t need anything for the house. Everyone has their opinions about it being bad etiquette to not register but I just couldn’t see spending the time to find things that we didn’t need just to put stuff. The honeyfund website looked awesome but I found out about it after the intvitations were already printed and I did not want to add an extra card that didn’t match my invite paper. So I will not be able to complain about gifts we receive since we chose not to register that’s for sure.

Post # 18
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know I’ll be going against some others’ opinions here but I set up only 2 registries: a Honeyfund account and a Bloomy’s registry.  They could either choose to buy me something from Bloomy’s which will most likely be overpriced (heh heh) or choose to contribute to my Honeyfund account.  

This message appears on my Welcome page:


Dearest Friends and Family,


Peter & I are very happy and excited to spend our lives together, as we prepare for our wedding day in April of 2013. We decided to set up a Honeyfund account, as we currently are on the search for a permanent home that offers storage space (something we are desperately in need of at this moment :)). It is then when we can finally enjoy all the wonderful things that standard registries can offer..!


We thank you all in advance for helping us start out as a newlywed couple. We are thrilled to be able to celebrate with you all in the near future!


Post # 19
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You want cash at your bridal shower or wedding? Most people will give cash at the wedding, so don’t think you have to do much there. But if you’re trying to get cash at your shower then I’m sorry to say there’s no way to say it without being obnoxious.  No matter how nice you’re trying to word it tends to leave a sour taste in people mouth especially if they’re planning on giving cash at the wedding. 

Post # 20
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I thought registering at all was poor etiquette? Essentially you’re asking for gifts and telling people what to get you…..you wouldn’t do that for a birthday would you? 

Post # 21
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Yellwill:  I wish people would register for birthdays and xmas.  It would make my life soooo much easier with people like Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law that we don’t see very often and have very little in common with. 


We didn’t register either.  I also pretty much refused to have a shower because Future Mother-In-Law wanted to invite all her friends and I just couldn’t afford to then invite them to the wedding.  So far, everyone who has given us a gift has given cash or Wal-mart gift cards (almost as good as cash, except the dog ate it). 

Post # 22
13901 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would find it rude to see that comment on an invitation or wedding website.  Have your parents/BMs spread the word that you’re saving for your first home, but don’t directly point it out.  What you can do is have a very small registry of things you’d like to upgrade with…people will get the hint that you don’t want/need much!

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