(Closed) Nice way to ask?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Perhaps something like:

Our final headcount is due to our venues and we’d like to know if you plan on attending. Please let us know no later than [insert date] so we can let our venue know. We’d hate to give them the wrong headcount and not include you in the count if you are indeed coming!


Post # 5
3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

“Yo.  If you plan to sit down or eat, you better tell me within 24 hours.” is what I told my friends. 

Family was told “thank you so much for your enthusiasm for our upcoming nuptuals.  Would you be so kind as to volunteer your RSVP so that we can make sure to set enough seats aside for you and yours?  We look forward to seeing you in ___.”


Post # 6
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@HappilyEverAfter54:  Just be like “you lazy as* folks need to find the time to pop a letter in the mailbox if you expect to come to the wedding.”

BetterSherm was slightly more diplomatic, but yeah. I hope you get your rsvp issue sorted soon!!

Post # 7
3 posts

Maybe you can say something like “The due date was ____ and I’m concered that your response got lost in the mail on the way back to me.  Will you be able to attend?  Of course, we understand if you can not, but we’d like to be able to give the final count to the venue” 

Post # 8
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We started two days after the deadline, since we had a few Blist people we were dying to invite, and really needed to get those out as soon as we could. 

We called, emailed, texted, and sent fb messages: Hi, we haven’t yet received your rsvp for our wedding on the 24th, and we’re really hoping you are planning to join us. We have to have our headcount right away. Should we include you in it?

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