Post # 1
I’m very concerned that in the month/weeks/days leading up to the wedding, people will attempt to contact me with questions via Facebook (because it has already happened!) I wouldn’t care if this was something I could consistently check every day, but it is impossible for me to keep track of who has written me what and where unless it is all safely in my email. I’m also really afraid that people are going to try and RSVP there also.
I’d like to put something on our wedding website under the Out of Town page that asks them not to use Facebook for anythign wedding related. Any suggestions on wording?
Post # 3
How about something as simple as, “Please direct all wedding-related questions to (email address).” Or, for something a little more conversational, “With all the excitement and hustle & bustle leading up to the wedding, we haven’t had time to keep up via Facebook! Please send all wedding questions to my email: (email address).”
Post # 4
I think a better idea would be to disable your account until after the wedding if you are that concerned about it. Or you can put on your website how they should contact you, but I think saying “no facebook” would be a little strange.
But can’t you change your settings so that facebook automatically send you an email when someone wites you a message or writes on your wall?
Post # 5
just don’t answer them..they’ll be all “I guess I have to call..”
or you can put in your fbook status “hiatus – contact me by email if you have any wedding q’s!”
Not sure what you might put on the website, other than “If you have any questions drop us an email at [email protected]“
Post # 6
Maybe just post a facebook status (and also in the area just below your profile pic, since the statuses now delete after one week) that people should contact you via email for wedding related questions, etc. That way, you are not necessarily saying anything negative, simply stating to contact you via email. If you must put a reason, then I agree with @hsearle. Just explain that with everything going on, that people should contact you via email for the most prompt responses.
Post # 7
Why don’t you just activate the option to have FB alert you via email every time you get a message?
Post # 8
I would do it the same way you train a dog. Ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior. In this case, don’t say ANYTHING about your wedding on FB and don’t respond to people who ask about it on FB, but be super responsive to phone calls and emails. You can also use wedding party members to spread the word about no FB.
I thought you were going to ask how to prevent people from posting wedding pics on FB I was going to say “Good luck and let me know if you find out how!”
Post # 9
I tend to follow up with an email no ton facebook about wedding related stuff. It’s my indirect way of telling them not on FB
Post # 10
On our wedding website people can click ‘send a message to A&M’ and it is through our wedding website. That way it’s all in one place and not on FB. I use weddingwire.com, loves it!
Post # 11
You can also disable your wall, so people can not post there. I think that will prevent them from contacting you (which is not the right mode of communication) and they will have to direct you to call or email.
Post # 12
I usually get emails whenever someone sends me a message, or posts on my Wall in Facebook. If you have access to your email, won’t you get those messages then?
Post # 13
I would just temporarily shut down your facebook…but before so, warn people b/c I’ve mistakenly thought someone deleted me when they were just trying to study during finals week.
Post # 14
We share a wedding date!! 🙂
I’m worried that after the wedding all my friends will immediately post pics of the wedding and reception on FB, and I don’t want them to! But FB was stupid and got rid of the picture approval option….lame. So there really isn’t a way to avoid that, is there?
Post # 15
if youre worried about missing something – just have it send an alert and message to your email inbox when you get a message on facebook – its pretty easy to do in the account settings.
if its etiquette you are worried about, just dont respond to stuff people have on FB – or only respond in your email to questions asked on FB.
keep in mind that some folks just dont use email because they might not know which account to send it to (i have 5 email accounts i know i know….) so putting your email on your wedding website will help.