(Closed) Nice wedding soon or dream wedding later, $

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Wait and save, or do it now?
    Wait until you can afford your dream wedding, 2014 isn't that far away! : (18 votes)
    26 %
    Have a more modest wedding now and save that $ for your future : (52 votes)
    74 %
    Other, Ill explain.... : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Sa7208:  I think that you should go with nice wedding now. 2014 is a long time to drag out an engagement. It’s not as though you cannot afford to get married at all. You are still financially able to get married. There are many things that you can do to decrease the cost: less flowers, less guests, less liquor, cocktail style food. Have the wedding and move on with your lives as husband and wife. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    With a difference of $12K and the fact that you want kids in the near future, I would definitely do the less expensive wedding in 9 months. It’s still going to be nice, you’ll have it when you want to have it and you’ll save over 10K! 

     

    Post # 5
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    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Short engagment with a nice wedding now. At the end of the day while yes a wedding is an important party, it is still just a party. I think personally, especially if I wanted to start a family soon, that $12k would be way more useful for kids than for a party. But You have to decide what YOU want, make a list of the MOST important things for your wedidng and price from there. Do you need an expensive DJ? Or are photographs more important? Do you want a coture wedding gown or is something less expensive okay? Do you want a wild open bar party or is a calmer lunch/dinner okay? Do you REALLY need $5/piece STDs? There are lots of things the wedding industry says you “need” but you have to decide what are the important things to you. 

    Post # 7
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    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @Sa7208: If that is an option I would do that. Really, unless it is a really awful venue (like, an outdoor wedding in sub zero temp and snow or blistering heat or bug infested) or super incredible like at the pearly gates of Heaven, very few people can tell you that much about a wedding venue after the fact. As long as your guests are comfortable, get fed if it is a meal time or snacks if it isn’t then they will enjoy it. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    What I would do is do the modest wedding now and just spend less money.

     

    If it is your dream to have this visioned wedding, as in you cannot imagine anything else, then maybe wait.  I am not like that, never was like that, so I can easily say go for the less expesive one.  But that’s me!

     

    It’d be awfully nice to have $12k on hand when you start to have kids. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    we all ahve a DREAM wedding… more often than not practicality sets in. My dream wedding would have well costed 100K We sepnt 30k and loved every bit of it all as well.

    Post # 10
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    we all ahve a DREAM wedding… more often than not practicality sets in. My dream wedding would have well costed 100K We sepnt 30k and loved every bit of it all as well.

    Post # 11
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Hmmm 2014 is not that far away. I have been engaged since Christmas and that’s when our wedding is, it has gone by fast so far. However… $12k is a lot to blow just on a nicer wedding when you could have a decent one now. What about splitting the difference – keep the modest venue with more guests. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2270 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If you look back at posts, a lot of women wind up regretting how much they splurged for the wedding. It’s only one day, and it will be just as special $12,000 cheaper and months sooner. I would go for the more modest wedding.

    Post # 13
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Sa7208:  Oh I just saw you already thought of that yourself. I think that’s the best way to go. Guests won’t really care where it is as long as they have fun. 

    Post # 14
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    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    While it’s a very important day, it’s just ONE day. The marriage is what’s really important. Personally, I’d find a way to make your current budget work rather than waiting… but then, I only had a 3.5 mo engagement because we were anxious to get on with our married lives! I had a fabulous wedding and am SO glad we didn’t drop more money that we did.

    Post # 16
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    5962 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Don’t wait to start your lives together over something as inane as a wedding cake and reception hall.  If it were me I would go bang on what I could afford now, and hit the ground running on the future.

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