Post # 1
My fiance’s first name is James, but he goes by ‘Jimmy’–his father’s name is James so really he is James Jr. We’re have a destination wedding and are only inviting close family and friends–he just told me that he wants me to put his name as “Jimmy” on the invitations not James Jr.
It just seems too casual to me, it may only be friends and family but it is going to be a semi-formal affair and the invitations-while not totally frou-frou-are going to look a little silly with a nickname on them.
Here’s a link to the wedding invites for reference
Is it wrong to put the groom’s nickname on an invite? Does it give out the wrong message, that the wedding is more casual than it is?
Idk I’m confused!
Post # 3
we had to make the same decision – FI’s family calls him Rob, his friends call him Bob, and we decided to use Robert on all the wedding stuff including invites.
I would suggest using James. I think Jimmy is just too informal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We’re in a similar situation and decided to use my FI’s full first name instead of the nickname he goes by. It just seemed to informal, like you said, to use a nickname.
Post # 5
@sylvia.riggle: I am putting my full name on ours, even though EVERYONE calls me by my nickname. I think some of my fiance’s friends will not know who I am because of it because my facebook has my nickname as well. I thought it was better because it’s formal.
However, if Jimmy feels strongly about it, who cares? It’s just a name!
Post # 6
If your guy wants Jimmy, especially given the invitation list, I’d personally go with that. It’s his day, too.
I know that his official name is more formal, but I guess I also think about some people I know who are formally named what most people assume is a nickname of a longer name. If I saw their name on an invitation, no matter how formal, I wouldn’t think any less of it. That has nothing to do with the fact that it is the formal name, but just that’s what everyone call them.
I think another reason you can get away with using the nickname is because you’re going to Hawaii, correct? I realize that it’s still a semi-formal affair, but it is still Hawaii. It’s the land where aloha shirts are appropriate business attire. It’s the place where my “appearances always matter” rich grandmother doesn’t bat an eye at pulling on a muÊ»umuÊ»u to wear for a dressy dinner at her elite country club. I think those kinds of contradictions about Hawaii kind of extend to your invitations.
Post # 7
I think we may have come to a compromise
James Jr on invitations, Jimmy on the RSVP cards