- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2018
You seem like a sweet person who is really trying to get along with and please everyone, but what about yourself? Spouses are supposed to stick together first and foremost, and, while you have not put your Fiance in the position of choosing between you and his family, he should never flat out say (or imply) that he would choose them over his wife. Someone who says that will always put your needs last, and that WILL put enormous strain on the relationship in the long run.
My dad lost his father when he was nine, and he grew up very protective of his mom and younger siblings. He often put my grandmother’s desires and family events with his siblings before my mom’s wishes. It caused such enormous strain on their marriage that they lived separately for a time. And you know what? When Daddy had a major health crisis a few years ago, it was my mom who was there for him literally picking him up and wiping his butt.. . Not any of his brothers, sister, or Grandma!
Don’t let all of this cause you to second guess your wishes or feelings. Relationships are a two way street, and your wishes and feelings get to count, too. I really hope everything works out for you!
They want to keep him and are busily driving a wedge between you. And he has told you his first loyalty is to them. It’s really awful, but at least you found out before you married someone who is alreacdy married to someone else.
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