(Closed) Nieces & nephews not using "aunt/uncle" when addressing you

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 92
2836 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@lilbear:  hmmmmmm.  guess I don’t see what the big deal is.  I *think* I called my aunt and uncles “aunt______ ” and “uncle____________” but as an adult, I just call them by thier first name.  

I usually refer to my sister as “auntie________” (a knickname) to my son, but he mostly just calls her by her knickname and she’s never said boo about it.

When my sister has kids, I don’t care if they address me as “aunt”– 

But I talk to my five year old like an adult- to a degree.  Yes, he’s treated like he’s five- in the ways that count.  But he’s not shielded from things, either.  I don’t believe kids should treat thier elders with respect– they should treat EVERYONE with resepct.  And we all have aa first name…so I don’t think it’s a big deal to use it!

Post # 93
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Don’t care! My nephew calls me Ren and my niece calls me Aunt Ren.  Whatever they like is fine by me! 

Post # 94
13749 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Calling an aunt or an uncle  by  first name only would just not ever be done in either of our families, by  us or by our kids!  We use the Aunt First Name and Uncle First Name designation.  

Post # 95
5867 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

That would bum me out.  

I always use aunt/uncle (or zia/zio as we are Italian) with my family.  For me it’s not a formal way of addressing them, but a term of endearment.

But I wouldn’t make a big deal of it.  To me it’s the sort of thing that needs to be given, not asked for.


Post # 96
953 posts
Busy bee

I call my aunts and uncles by their first names.

Post # 97
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@lilbear:  My Grandparents actually thought it was odd that we called our Uncles (their sons) Uncle A and Uncle B when we were little. My parents think we did it because of “Full House.” As far as I know, neither side of my family has really used the terms “Aunt” or “Uncle” in front of the person’s name.

We still put “Uncle” in front of their names, but we don’t really use “Aunt” for any of our Aunts (we sometimes will for the one Aunt that has been in the family for 30+ years, but not all the time). The only Aunt we had that was related to us by blood died when I was about 5, so maybe that has something to do with it.

I don’t really see it as a lack of respect or anything, but maybe thats just because of the family I was raised in. It was far more important that we say please, thank you, and act politely to my parents.

Post # 98
9562 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

what do the kids’ parents refer to you as?

that’s where the kids get it, if they don’t make up their own name for you.

DH refers to his 1st cousin’s children as his nieces.  they are 9, 5, and 3.  sometimes they call us by our first names, sometimes they call DH another family nickname, i don’t think they have ever called us aunt or uncle though maybe they refered to it once or twice.

with friends of mine, the parents talk to their children and would say something like, say hi to aunt [my first name].  i have a lot more of my friends’ children calling me aunt then anyone else.


Post # 99
313 posts
Helper bee

My FH’s nieces/nephews don’t call him Uncle. It bugs him (and me), because we both grew up calling ours Aunt and Uncle (and still do). I think it’s a nice sign of respect. That said, the kids range from 5-11, so there’s probably no changing it now.

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