(Closed) night b4 wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

madelineacting: I personally find it silly to spend the night apart from your Fiance on the night before the wedding. Paying for 2 rooms is just unnecessary and we both sleep better when we are with each other. 

But if you think it’s really important, then I understand it. I don’t think using the same room for the night before and of the wedding will ruin the “specialness”. You’ll be married when you come back, and that would be special enough for me 🙂 

Post # 3
2506 posts
Sugar bee

madelineacting:  id happily sleep with my fiancé he night before, but he’s being traditional about it and wants us to sleep apart. Sigh. the room we have for our wedding night we also have the night before (because we have to rent out all the rooms in the b&b as part of our venue package). Since we’re paying for the room anyway, I’m going to sleep in it the night before. It’s gorgeous, and not cheap, so someone might as well enjoy it! As for Fiance, he’s just going to crash in the hotel room with one of his groomsmen (the rest of the wedding guests are staying at a separate hotel as the b&n has only 8 rooms). That way he gets to spend the night with his guys, and we don’t have to pay for a second room. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  ilovesophia.
Post # 4
400 posts
Helper bee

Fiance and I will be in different hotels and won’t see each other from the time we split off on that Saturday until the first look Sunday evening.

A lot of this is due to us doing our bachelorette/bachelor parties the night before. If we didn’t have friends coming/weren’t doing the party, I’m not sure. I think I would be more inclined to spend the night apart if my girlfriends/family were there, less inclined if it were just the two of us. 

Post # 5
2134 posts
Buzzing bee

I would sleep together! I’m too anxious. Lol 

Post # 6
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We got two rooms at a B&B, we slept together in one and a friend of ours (we carpooled with her) stayed in the other room. The night of the wedding we stayed in a yurt at the venue and gave the second room to another set of our friends (they travelled and did our florals for free as a gift). We did most of our getting ready at the B&B (hair and makeup) but I got dressed in the yurt we stayed in and it’s where we kept all of the decor etc after cleaning up.

It definitely didn’t impact the specialness of the fancy room. When I’d been getting ready there were tonnes of people (including the photographer!) whereas after it was just Darling Husband and I. Being alone together was what made it special, the fancy room was just icing!

Post # 7
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

sleep together, same room as the wedding night room.

Post # 8
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

We had a suite at Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas, it was pretty awesome.It didn’t make sense to be apart for a night when we have lived together so long. When the ladies were getting ready he went to the casino to play craps. And he won!

Post # 9
2108 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My husband was traditional and wanted to separate the night before. So he stayed at my mothers, me and my mother stayed at the hotel in different rooms. I thought it was silly to spend money on another room and I thought I would want to stay with him to calm down. I did need 10 minutes with him alone the night before but in hindsight I’m glad we slept separately, we both so worked up/excited that together we wouldn’t have been able to sleep. If either of us is stressed its really noticeable while we sleep (moving a lot, snoring, sleep talking, being possessive about the bed). I think we might have ended up in an argument and being alone just really helped me to relax and not feel too overwhelmed the day after (when I feel anxious he is usually the one to calm me but not when he’s also stressed). Have a think about how you’re both likely to react and go from there.

Post # 10
6781 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

We stayed together in the cabin we’d rented for the weekend.  We also saw each other all day up to about 3 PM when we wandered our separate ways to get dressed and then an hour later for pics.  All tradition would do is make me miss him when I’m having a good time.  No sense in that and no sense wasting money on an unnecessary hotel room.  I’d go with plan 1 if I were you … and only because I assume the special suite costs more so you might as well skip it for one night and stay in a standard room.

Caveat being that some people really do want to keep separate on the wedding day. If you do, what I suggested is of course not the right choice for you!

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