(Closed) Night Before Wedding

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wait so she expected you to spend the night in Pittsburgh and then drive up to NYC the day of the wedding? Or she wanted you to spend the night in their hotel suite with them  the night before the wedding?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I haven’t shared a hotel room with my parents since I was like 17.  I think it’s a little weird that as a grown adult they expect you to share their hotel room with them the night before your wedding.

I’m staying at my parents’ house with all my girlfriends.  If I were staying at a hotel, I would either stay in a room by myself, or with my sister or friends.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ahh ok. Maybe they could get a hotel room right next door to the one your BMs get, and you could sit up with your BMs, and then just go sleep in the suite with your parents? It definitely sounds like there’s a little bit of  “my baby girl is getting married and leaving us!” which is totally understandable–my parents are the same way. 🙂 Maybe having her next door, whether or not you end up staying with her, would be enough of a compromise for her?

I’m also planning on doing a hotel suite the night before, with my BMs if they want to be there. My parents live in NYC, but otherwise I’m sure they would want to stay as close to me as possible! Good luck 🙂

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Umm…a little late for the guilt trip now!  My parents didn’t even stay in the same place as me when I got married, they were in a separate hotel!  It’s much more fun to hang with your girlfriends.  Hanging with you parents is more of a rehearsal dinner thing, after that all bets are off.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Um, I wouldn’t share a hotel room with my parents either. Can’t you get the rooms attached?

Our arrangement was like hotchild’s–my parents stayed with me at our house (DH stayed with his mom) and my bridesmaids stayed over too. It was one big slumber party. But uh, sharing a room? No thanks. Girls night!

Maybe just set aside a little time in the evening and the morning to go have coffee with your folks or spent 30 minutes hanging out with them.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I will be with BMs/MOH.

It sounds like your mom is over reacting a bit; if you aren’t doing anything else the day before, then maybe a lunch with your parents or other outing, but I think you should stay in your own room; tell your dad he’ll see you soon enough the next day and it’ll be worth the wait.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think the best approach is to tell your mom why you have things envisioned the way you do, and tell her that if they were home, her idea wold make sense, but in a hotel its just awkward and a little off.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think staying at your parents’ house is definitely reasonable, but staying in the same room as them would not be an option for me….it’s not like you sleep in their room with them at their house LoL

Post # 14
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268 posts
Helper bee

I’m getting a room at a nice hotel near my church the night before and my BM’s plan on staying and so does my mom .. we’re going to have a lot of fun ..

Post # 15
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16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

She is just having trouble letting go, so whatever you decide, be gentle. Maybe make up for not staying with them by finding some other quality time you can spend with them before the wedding?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am staying the night at my parents house (I am getting married about a half mile from their house 🙂 BUT the following morning I want to get ready at the reception site which is also where my in laws are staying (we are having our reception on the water at a huge manor house that we rented for the weekend)

I want to get ready there because the master bedroom is MASSIVE and has a bathroom the size of a large bedroom (no joke). Plus the “getting ready” photos will be great since the room has many windows letting in nice natural light, and the decor is really pretty. My mom was so upset because I guess she assumed I would get ready at her house. I really don’t want to get ready there because my parents house is very dark, no natural light, and not spacious AT ALL. Our bathrooms are tiny and it would just be very difficult to have the BM’s and photographer all at once there!

She has made me guilty for this, but I can’t help it! I just think it will be more comfortable at the manor house. We are paying a ton for it… may as well use it! (even though FI’s parents have the master bedroom, I want to kick them out while I get ready)

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