(Closed) Night before the wedding … family drama

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you sleep elsewhere, you wont get much sleep and be cranky the next day (tell them that!) I think you should sleep wherever you want to. They will get over it, this is about you not them, you have to do what makes you happy.

Post # 4
46421 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Compromise. Tell your family you will sleep apart  if it is that important to them- IF -they want to pay for it.

If you have problems sleeping at a hotel, your Fiance could sleep there the night before the wedding.

Post # 5
16 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think do what you want to enjoy YOUR day, even if you are doing the wedding for them. In the end, if you and your fiance don’t honestly care, is it going to matter? No. Enjoy the night, sleep well, and just tell them it’s not happening, end of story! 🙂

Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You could always tell your family you will sleep apart and then don’t.  Everyone’s happy.

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

as far as your family being all about tradition, hello you already live together so i dont understand their idea that now is the time to roll out the lilly white tulle and make believe its the dark ages – stand your ground and do what you and your Fiance want

Post # 8
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@snoie: I am having a Bridal Party sleepover the night before my wedding as a compromise. I agree that you should do what you want but for me, I thought it would be a fun way to spend time with my girls and I know they will make sure I rest and relax.


Hope this helps.


Post # 9
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t see any issue with what you want to do. And it’s your wedding, your decisions! I was in a similar boat, as we’ve been living together for 6.5 years and it’s we had decided it would be easier to get a hotel room close to the ceremony/reception site and get makeup/hair to go there instead of at home. And I felt weird not sleeping next to him and using a whole room all to myself, so we spent the night together and he got ready while I had my hair and makeup done in my PJs, and then he left when I was ready to put my dress, jewelery and shoes on. Then I met him in the hotel lobby for our first look. Worked well for us. But yeah, some people are picky… you choose what you want to do.

Post # 10
7403 posts
Busy Beekeeper

They need to get over it. You a legal adult who can get married so you certainly can decide for yourselves about your night before arrangements.

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